One-itis

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Ah something i can comment on. I was actually in the SAME exact position as you oh about a year ago. Dated on and off the whole bit. My best advice, disappear for a bit. Hang out with the guys build those relationships back up because if you were anything like me you were probably with her before you were with them. Summer is coming up have fun man. Go out dick around with your buddies. If your goin off to college in the fall go. I promise before next christmas break she will be calling you because she misses you (aka wants to smash). I am currently in the same situation the ex hits me up about 2 weeks before she knows ill be back in town so that we can hook up. Most importantly though DATE other girls. Thats kinda a must and this will help you to realize that there are other girls out there.

Hope this helped you dude,

Its only after we have lost everything that we are free to do anything

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You need to stay away from this girl and game other girls. Take some time for yourself.Once you're completely over her then you can potentially hang out with her again.
I don't want to beat a dead horse but I think that we're all trying to emphasize the same point to you. There is no way to get over someone while they are around you. You need to take her out of your life for now.

If you feel like you did nothing wrong, DO NOT apologize to her. Apologies are supposed to be given when you truly regret something and are supposed to come from the heart. If you don't mean it don't apologize for it or it's going to come off as needy. It seems like you just want to apologize to make her happy and make her like you again. Stand your ground and make her respect you. You know you're doing the right thing.

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bump. same story here. one dysfunctional relationship (at your same age/approx. same length coincidentially) and i think ill always have love for the girl though its not conducive to a meaningful courtship.
as stated above, stay away and give it time.
i did that then made the mistake of re-pursuing it years later only do uncover the same situation. cut her off, date on and grow. to reignite the situation is self-destructive; and to dwell on it is to prevent future growth. wait a month at least and do the phone call than if you must, but dont ever forget why you got to the break-up in the first place. that was my mistake; looking back it may seem the good times are easier remembered than the bad, but remeber you will always get shocked when pissing on an electric fence.

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Hmm .....most people do have to deal with at least one one-itis in their life. Having an interesting lifestyle and a harem of girls to fuck, will help you out. Like everyone else on this forum said-forget about her and start meeting other women IMMEDIATELY

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my only goal in this life-adjustment we know as "pick-up" is to, for the first time in my life, have options with women.

Yesterday I told a girl I really, really liked to get her shit out of my house and leave. Sure, I'd love to be with her right now, but she didn't treat me the way I want to be treated, and I'm worth more than that. I don't have options yet, but I'm starting to believe that I posses the potential to have such.

My advice to you is to simply answer a question, aren't you tired of all the history and bullshit that you listed in your post? Start over man. You only live once, make the most of every day.

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Start over man. You only live once, make the most of every day.
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I think it can all be summed down to these simple words. You only live once. The clock is ticking

[Guest]

Man, thank you all gentlemen. This is all fantastic advice. So far so good, I've managed to avoid any contact with her and have tried focusing on other girls in my life. I think I'll be going to hear Mystery speak tomorrow, so hopefully that'll just add to my newly founded game and I can start pulling more girls. Keep up the posting, anyone who wants to, I think One-itis has hit us all at some point or another, and having a supportive community here really helps in getting through it. Cheers!

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Man, thank you all gentlemen. This is all fantastic advice. So far so good, I've managed to avoid any contact with her and have tried focusing on other girls in my life. I think I'll be going to hear Mystery speak tomorrow, so hopefully that'll just add to my newly founded game and I can start pulling more girls. Keep up the posting, anyone who wants to, I think One-itis has hit us all at some point or another, and having a supportive community here really helps in getting through it. Cheers!
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It might help, but there is no substitute for getting out there and feeling some success. Once that happens, you get your "y" chromosome back.