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Maybe you're just feeling burned out and need a change of pace with certain things in your life?

I could be wrong, but it seems like there is something in your relationship with women, or maybe just one woman specifically, that is frustrating and even angering you, and then you are feeling some guilt about or at least questioning that negativity.

I dated this girl Marie before I signed away my soul to the dallas lair. She was like an angel in my mind. I definately "revered" her and it was completely unhealthy.

She found somebody else, and I was crushed. After feeling sad, I got angry - and i generalized that anger to all women. It wasn't my fault, it wasn't her, it was women who were horrible, I thought. And I used that anger and hatred toward women to justify sleeping around and probably hurting the self esteem of a few young women along the way.

I was angry, and then I'd feel guilty because I felt that being full of hate was wrong.

What I eventually realized was that I never loved Marie, I was obsessed with an image of her that was a creation of my own mind. She was never this angel, I just wanted her to be that. Actually, I can say confidently that I never knew the girl.

If she found someone who loved her for who she truly is, she's better off for it - and who can fault that?

That brought me peace. And what doesn't kill you definately makes you stronger when you come out the other side.

I don't have all the answers man, so i'm not going to try to play "love professor" and give you a 10 step plan to happiness and foolproof success in all areas of your love life. All I know is that you've always got your buds here wishing you well and we'll have to have a beer next time I'm in Dallas.