For guys with several girlfriends:

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After we have sex for the first time and are about to hang out again I always say "Hey, just wanted to let you kow that I'm not looking for and don't want a relationship" and they'll always say "Hey, that's cool. Me either. I'm sorry if I came on too strong" or something like that. You have to bring it up from the get-go before they start drawing their own conclusions. It works so incredibly well too. Almost any time I call an FB she is available for me because she knows that I can find someone else just as easily.

Let us know how it goes.
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HAHA.... Pllllayerrrrr... seriously... I forgot which guru I read it from... but it is the simple psyh of Supply and Demand. Limited Lion Supply = High Demand.

The hurdle for me (besides AA) is even having the balls to push steady good sex away and not get mentally attached.

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I've got three women in the new rotation right now. One I've been with once, the other four times and the third once. I guess it's not too late for the "I don't want exclusivity" talk with any of them at this point.

The problem is, based on past experience, once you throw this down, they start in with their jealousy and other stupid shit. They'll talk about other guys they're fucking, which I think is a lie half the time, and how these other guys have really big dicks and so on and so on. It just gets old really fast. I learned how to deal with it effectively, but it still gets old. For the record, I NEVER bring up other women I'm seeing when I'm with them.
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I have zero experience.

As I am reading this thread, I am thinking it is not a sit down and talk about the truth.
Please correct me if I am wrong.... I think it is the mode of delivery.

It is a blurb of truth while being cocky-funny moment... "I am not looking for a relationship" versus a lets sit down and talk moment.

"Women picks up on everything you say and every little detail." -some guru.

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I tried the 3girlfriends at once a few months ago. My bed just couldn't handle all that action!

Seriously, I tell them in a hilarious joking manner how big of a player I am and that I'm a real bad boy. Make up bs that is so outrageous they won't believe it. Just sprinkle in the truth amidst all the bs and they'll never truly figure out what hit them. Anytime they start to question you on your other girl(s) just play it up into some big joke and you'll get them sidetracked and onto another topic.

I had one girl named Elvira try and call me out about my other girl named Choo-Choo. So I just tell Elvira, oh yeah you know its hot and heavy between choo-choo and me just like it is you and me. IN fact choo-choo wants to meet you. I told her how hot and naughty you were. She's sort of a freak, and asked me if you'd be into a 3some.......like tonight! I actually used this and she quit talking about it.

I always tell them that I date Fergie & Gwen along with them. They think I'm kidding because I couldn't possibly date Fergalicious and Gwen Stefani. But they don't realize those are just alias's for actual girls. And I always make up more random bizarre bs and they think its all make believe and I'm just being funny. After you got them "trained" they'll start asking you, "so did you and fergie get all hot with each other last night"?

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Howiestern,

Interesting, I used to always mention My Little China Girl in set. There really was a girl I was seeing and that's what I called her. I even introduced her to friends that way too. But women always thought I was joking about "My Little China Girl".

As for using the line "One of my girlfriends..." in set, I totally stopped using that. Women quickly label you a player and few really want anything to do with a player. I was getting blown out because I was coming off as a player. Now that I've stopped drinking so much and seen where I'm getting blown out, it helps me see where I'm blowing it. After they're attracted, they like the player, but on a conscious level, no quality woman really wants a player. So what I've started using instead is, "One of my ex girlfriends..." or "I just broke up with my girlfriend." This seems to be working MUCH better at generating attraction and keeping them in set. Dropping "I just broke up with my girlfriend", casually, is really good, btw. They all want a boyfriend (that they can go cheat around on).

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The problem is, based on past experience, once you throw this down, they start in with their jealousy and other stupid shit. They'll talk about other guys they're fucking, which I think is a lie half the time, and how these other guys have really big dicks and so on and so on. It just gets old really fast. I learned how to deal with it effectively, but it still gets old. For the record, I NEVER bring up other women I'm seeing when I'm with them.
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What kind of girls are you dating? I have never had a girl say anything remotely like that to me and when you're truthful about fucking other girls they NEVER mention other guys to me. I would say ditch these worthless whores and find women with a little bit of class. On the other hand, it sounds to me like you might be the jealous type and the women can sense that and dig their claws in, just to hurt you.

If you are dating worthless bar whores, let them go. The best they should get is an SNL. If you are not, then work on the jealousy issues. Just don't react to anything they say, or even better, laugh at the stupid shit they say when they are trying to make you mad. Also, you need to fuck the absolute dogshit out of these women. When you fuck them good they won't want to argue with you.

Side note: If any woman ever said any shit like that to me I would just open the door for her and let her go, then immediately delete her number.

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I consistently date anywhere from 4 - 9 girls at a time.

The secret is to ignore anything that doesn't serve you. If she tries to have a relationship discussion, just tell her you don't feel like it and change the subject. If she starts to get jealous and demands to know if you are seeing other girls, just give her a smart ass answer and again change the subject. If it is clear you are not in an exclusive relationship (which it should be), you don't owe her any relationship discussion. Let her think and rationalize anything she wants in her mind. I actually think it is disrespectful to tell a girl you are sleeping with about you dating other girls - it is demeaning and lowers her value as you just made her not feel special.

The key is to have a busy life and dictate how much time you will spend together. I have found that if I see a girl once every week to two weeks and talk to them a couple of times a week, they will stay in a relationship with me for as long as I want.

My goal, however, is to not have a harem. I actually want to get married and settle down so I usually spend more time with my favorite or favorites while I determine if we are compatible (while I continue to see the other girls in my life no more than 5 - 10 times a month).

This has the advantage of naturally raising my standards. I don't approach a girl unless I am very physcially attracted to her. I don't keep talking to a girl unless she captivates my attention and we have a solid connection. I don't try to bring girls I just met home for sex as I can get sex anytime I want so I spend more time qualifying and getting to know someone before sleeping with them.

Dating multiple women isn't for everyone. I don't like to run jealousy threads so I am very careful to make sure there are no other signs of other women at my house although every girl I am dating knows we are not exclusive. Its a lot of work but I LOVE women so I enjoy it.

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This has the advantage of naturally raising my standards. I don't approach a girl unless I am very physcially attracted to her. I don't keep talking to a girl unless she captivates my attention and we have a solid connection. I don't try to bring girls I just met home for sex as I can get sex anytime I want so I spend more time qualifying and getting to know someone before sleeping with them.

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Yep its kind of nice when you get to that level. Its like success breads success. The entire "neediness" is out the window and they start working for you, instead of you working for them. That's the way this "ho' bizznizz" has got to be.

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Twitchy, that's kinda been the way I've been handling it too. I think it's just rude and insulting to mention another woman I'm seeing.

I like your M.O. on this, if I understand it correctly. Don't mention other women, don't bring up any relationship talk, hide things that show other women have been around your house but never lie to them either.

So what do you say if they ask you point blank "Have you had sex with anyone else?" Do you tell them the truth or do you tell them it's not their business? If the sex is safe, it really is none of their business, in my opinion. After all, you're not in an exclusive relationship. I think you can tell them you're seeing other women, but what goes on in the bedroom is a private matter.

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I am a big smart ass so deflecting a conversation I don't want to have comes easily to me. When directly confronted, either be really sarcastic and then change the conversation or say something like "let's not ruin the good time we are having right now with a serious conversation"

For example:
Girl: "Have you had sex with anyone else recently"
Me" "Yeah, I barely snuck the last one out right before you got here. Come to think of it, she looks kind of like you. Do you have a sister? Quit being such a dork!" And then move on......

All that being said, I do have relationship talks from time to time - especially if I really care about the girl. For instance, my #1 wants to be exclusive and more serious. I am actually not opposed to that however, she has some things in her life she needs to get control over. My response is "I would like that. However, first you need to take care of A, B and C". Now the ball is in her court