TXTing v.s. Calling

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One of the great debates. It's odd though I am not hearing anyone for calling. Usually a few pipe up and swear by calling.
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I don't know why, but I have some kind of inner contempt for text messaging. I usually call, and I've had success that way, but I the first time I ran into some trouble with that was a couple weeks ago when i called the girl and she seemed really disinterested. But then I started texting and she was texting me like mad. Kinda weird. I think I'll try texting when I first contact them instead of calling for a while and see how that works

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This is one of the great debates a lot of newer guys struggle with. One guy in particular I *think* has changed his philosophy regarding text versus calling.

Kit, can you chime in on how your thinking has changed regarding texts?

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On average, I'd say the older she is the more likely she'll want to talk on the phone and the younger she is the more she'll prefer to text.
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I have a friend who is 50+ who sends me txt all the time. Not saying that you're wrong though, just that I wouldn't think of this as a hard and fast rule.

Also there have been about five times when I number closed a girl and sent her a txt the next day. Their response to my txt was a phone call to ask me who I was... Not really a problem.

I think if you are going to send txt you need to start right away. Not wait till the next day but send one within a few hours of your meeting her.

I haven't been txting that much but I think I'll be doing more of it. For some reason it seems more natural to girls to communicate this way. Also unlimited txt is pretty cheap... and I'm running out of talk minutes every month due to a certain PUA...

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On average, I'd say the older she is the more likely she'll want to talk on the phone and the younger she is the more she'll prefer to text.
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I have a friend who is 50+ who sends me txt all the time. Not saying that you're wrong though, just that I wouldn't think of this as a hard and fast rule.

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There isn't one single hard fast rule in pick up. Just good probabilities. Texting makes older people feel younger..... or so says my mom. .... Literally. That could be one way to look at it.

I would generally have to agree though that the older they are (40's and above) they typically stay away from text. 30's seem to have very little problems, and 20's its the perferred method most times. I have 2 right now that don't text, only call. In which case I just make it to where they call me, instead of the other way around.

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[quote1209435400=Finesse]In which case I just make it to where they call me, instead of the other way around.
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How?

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Through a series of frames I set and place on them.

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This is one of the great debates a lot of newer guys struggle with. One guy in particular I *think* has changed his philosophy regarding text versus calling.

Kit, can you chime in on how your thinking has changed regarding texts?
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Kit, what u got?

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Hey I have a quick question:

I texted a girl and she says she has work that night (she works at a bar) but then I was like "ok we'll have to meet up another time then, cool?" and she never responded. Its been since saturday night and I haven't texted back. Should I send her another text or something? I'm wanting her for networking mainly but I guess I was sorta interested...shes cute.

With texts, its so hard to tell if they are genuinely just busy, or are showing disinterest.

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Yeah, that's why you need to text with the presumption that she is interested. Don't back down, ever.

Honestly, the text you posted below to her was pretty weak. Keep in mind that you have to continue to hold the same frame via text that you had when you met. Some of the things that you text to girls will seem harsh or lacking context, but they're going to read those texts through the lenses of your face-to-face meeting. So, if you were fun and playful when you first met her your texts will be read as such even if they might seem *rude*

Something like the following would have been a little better, be sure to mirror the speed with which she texts (if she takes 5 minutes, you take 20 minutes don't instant text her!):

You: Great! Work hard and earn lots of tips so you can take me to dinner next week...

Or don't even respond, then reopen a couple of days later. I hate being the last one to respond in a text string.

Really though it sounds like she might not be interested. She got the text, I promise you she did, but she decided not to respond for whatever reason. Who knows really?

I would wait at least a week to re-engage. And, when you do it don't do it on a prime party night (which for me is everyday that ends in 'y').