The importance of "type" in Denton

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I went to school @ UNT and dealt with those girls...and I'm pretty sure things haven't changed.

You have to realize it's a Liberal Arts school...so you have to deal with that aspect first and foremost. You need to be comfortable around these "emo" kids, start making friends with some, party with them...show everyone that image doesn't mean shit to you. You are who you are and they are who they are...and you can party w/ the best of em.

When I started there, I thought the only way to get girls in to bed was to either paint all the time and live in a coffee house, or join a Fraternity. I know now that isn't the truth, you just have to put yourself out there more. Some of the best people in Denton are the ones who aren't in any affiliation, but know and are liked by all.

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I'm up here at UNT right now. Living in the dorms. Sophomore year, turning 20 in February. Just got out of back-to-back LTR's with a hard case of one-itis on the last one. Not really looking to go out yet (just getting my life back in order right now), but I enjoy reading this stuff and am looking forward to meeting some girls up here on campus once next semester gets kicked off. But I'm not 21, so going to the bars on Fry St. is kinda fruitless.

The problem I have is that I have no one to hang out with up here. For my first year and a half I spent 95% of my time back home (Grapevine) with old high school friends and to this day only have a handful of friends around campus. At this point I'm just as interested in having some guy friends to chill with as I am picking up chicks, and as the threadstarter said, the girls up here really aren't my type for the most part. Plus, the girls more or less come with the territory. Get together a good group and I'm sure we wouldn't have a problem finding some girls to come chill with us. I did it PLENTY of times in high school and even with friends back home over the past couple weeks when we're bored. Not like college girls are hard to pick up, and I'm not exactly Mr. Suave :)

Any of y'all know of any car clubs or meets or anything like that up here? Denton Dragway isn't too far away, and I've seen some decent cars on campus, I figure there's gotta be something going.

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[quote="Rhody"][quote:11471c6a24="Kalop"]smile, or others, you got any Pics of you sporting eyeliner? Ive tried it.. but never could get it to work... always taken it off faster than I put it on. I'm not sure if I'm doing it right though... lol

Ive done the black nails things a few times... mixed reactions, people telling me its not halloween yet and shit... thats fine... it starts a few conversations though.[/quote]
That's exactly what you want. Have people bust on you and handle it with confidence and congruence. That's the whole point of peacocking the way Mystery does it.[/quote:11471c6a24]

Excelent point, Rhody. This is exactly what I've concluded with respect to peacocking. The level to which you peacock invites a certain level of social pressure. If you are comfortable & able to deal with that level of pressure, you come off as having very high value...If you do not, if it is evident that the social pressure is too much for you, then you come off as having very low value. I noticed this when I started wearing a Fedora--little peacockyness = a little extra social pressure.

I've been steadily escaliating it since then.

I went out recently wearing devil horns (not on Halloween). This is pretty peacocky--but I was comfortable & witty when dealing with all the douchebags AMOGing me.

Sometimes I do go beyond what I can deal with at my skill level--e.g. I went out with a giant sign over my crotch that read "DANGER: STAND CLEAR 50 ft"....in Uptown nonetheless. This wasn't good.

Sadly, there are still a lot of guys in the community that still don't get this. Lots of guys bash my sparkley hats, for example. They make the error of assuming because they could not handle the social presure the hat would bring, that it is also bad for me to wear it. I recall thinking the same thing when I met Herbal.

If someone says some lame ass comment about you having black nails hit them back with a witty response that shows you really don't care what they think.

Westfall

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[quote="Westfall"]Sadly, there are still a lot of guys in the community that still don't get this. Lots of guys bash my sparkley hats, for example. They make the error of assuming because they could not handle the social presure the hat would bring, that it is also bad for me to wear it. I recall thinking the same thing when I met Herbal.

If someone says some lame ass comment about you having black nails hit them back with a witty response that shows you really don't care what they think.[/quote]

Dude, I thought the sparkley hat from last Friday was golden (not in color of course). Sure, some people talked shit but screw them. You handled it with poise, you wore it with pride. Kudos!

I will say that you should be careful about who you sarge with when you peacock. I can totally see an underhanded wing trying to use you as an unintentional wing to open up a set.

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Wear what you want to wear and make sure to be confident. When Shine and I go out we usually are referred to or have people tell us that we are gay ~1-5 times a night. I even had a guy try to start a fight with me in Denton last time. I was dancing with a girl this last Sat. at blackfinn and heard a guy calling me gay because the girl he was hanging out with joined me and another girl while we were dancing. Then she commented on how she liked dancing and he said, "Ya with gay guys." We also get eyed by a lot of people.

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[quote="Smile"]Wear what you want to wear and make sure to be confident. When Shine and I go out we usually are referred to or have people tell us that we are gay ~1-5 times a night.[/quote]

I get gay a lot too.

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[quote="Bull Run"][quote:031cba1ced="Smile"]Wear what you want to wear and make sure to be confident. When Shine and I go out we usually are referred to or have people tell us that we are gay ~1-5 times a night.[/quote]

I get gay a lot too.[/quote:031cba1ced]

I didn't know it was something you could turn on and off? :?

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[quote="Finesse"][quote:acbd41112e="Bull Run"][quote:acbd41112e="Smile"]Wear what you want to wear and make sure to be confident. When Shine and I go out we usually are referred to or have people tell us that we are gay ~1-5 times a night.[/quote]

I get gay a lot too.[/quote:acbd41112e]

I didn't know it was something you could turn on and off? :?[/quote:acbd41112e]

Oh shit! Let me rephrase...I am often asked or accused of being gay.

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[quote="Bull Run"]Dude, I thought the sparkley hat from last Friday was golden (not in color of course). Sure, some people talked shit but screw them. You handled it with poise, you wore it with pride. Kudos!

I will say that you should be careful about who you sarge with when you peacock. I can totally see an underhanded wing trying to use you as an unintentional wing to open up a set.[/quote]

Yeah, that happens, but I've generally learn pretty quick if someone has potential as a good wingman. I recall one situation where a wingman tried this crap, and I ended up turning it around and getting a #-close from the girl. Another factor is that winging with me can put a little social pressure on my wing, and as a result I've had some wings give off a nervous vibe--worried about being embarassed or something. Meh, it's a game of no consequence, I say!

As a side note: I've also noticed some of the guys in the community are really insecure and can't handle the normal witty social jabs that get thrown around between friends, even though they might bust on my hat (damn Anti-Fedora coalition), they either get defensive, qualify, or become rude if I lob a comment back their way. I think they either don't have experince dealing with social pressure or lack the confidence needed to respond approperately.

I like you're style, Bull. We should do some sarging sometime. I prefer daygame though.

I get the gay question a lot too. I think it's a sign you're doing well, as it is most certainly an IOI. If a guy asks you, accuse him of asking you out. That's always fun and he'll always DLV by qualifying or becoming homophobic :wink:

Westfall

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[quote="Finesse"][quote:fb74174b29="Bull Run"][quote:fb74174b29="Smile"]Wear what you want to wear and make sure to be confident. When Shine and I go out we usually are referred to or have people tell us that we are gay ~1-5 times a night.[/quote]

I get gay a lot too.[/quote:fb74174b29]

I didn't know it was something you could turn on and off? :?[/quote:fb74174b29]

Have you ever tried to turn it off?