Any Black PUAs out there??

[Guest]

Not all black guys are naturally talented when it comes to picking up all girls. I've gone out many times by myself, met and talked to black guys just because I knew they were out to meet women, and there were groups of women that came easily to them. However, not all the groups of women came easily, they just knew who would respond to their ethnicity, as racist or biased as that might sound.
I've also known black men who were so fucking slick they were talking girls into liking me because I happen to have made good friend of the guy. You said that you have to convince girls that you weren't going to rob them or are a gangster. Sounds very related to how you dress.

Disclaimer: I'm not right, but trying to help. I'd need more feedback to give better answers. Everyone has to work to get a girl who they don't get good initial signals from at first sight.

Hoovy

[Guest]

A guy living in my suite is black. Fucker has taught me alot. After countless times of him jacking my chicks I figured it out. He has spirit and knows how to just have fun and be in his own world like none of my white friends do. Guy has never stolen anything from me. He actually buys stuff for me sometimes expecting nothing in return, and he can dance.

Does this mean all black people are this way? Nah, but it does show me what's possible. I read an article for my studies the other day and it said that whoever you are attracted to is much more likely to be attracted to you. So if you like a certain white chick then she is much more likely to like you back. As far as the racist ones.. they need to start bein part of the 21st century.

[Guest]

I had actually tried to game this one chick and she was like "I don't date "Brothers" I only date my own kind" it was one of those "Wtf?" moments surprised me that there were still women like that and it's not like she was old, either...maybe 19-20

[Guest]

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I had actually tried to game this one chick and she was like "I don't date "Brothers" I only date my own kind" it was one of those "Wtf?" moments surprised me that there were still women like that and it's not like she was old, either...maybe 19-20
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Would you really want to date such a woman? I recall in my AFC days a girl told me she only dates hispanic guys, and I tried to qualify to her in a funny way by telling her I was hispanic... I think a good response to that woman would be, "That's cool, I don't date racists"...or just disqualify "That's cool because I dont date white girls....this is great because we can cuddle without me having to worry about you trying to molest me like most white women"

WF

[Guest]

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I feel like I have my ethnicity working to my disadvantage...
maybe I'm subconsciously showing my insecurity
it's like I have to work twice as hard as a white guy to build attraction.
I have to 1st prove that I'm not going to steal their shit, and the 2: prove that I'm not some hip hopping gangster.
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Get this shit out of your head. You need to have the frame that they must prove themselves to you, not that you need to prove anything to them. Yeah there are girls who are racist and yes there are non-racist girls who will not date (Or at least profess that they will not date) outside their own race. Thats really not that big a deal. For most girls I don't think it matters. It should not be an issue. If you make it an issue for yourself then it will always be an issue. If you have the frame that it doesn't matter then for the most part it wont. I'm not saying that you'll be successful in every set... or even most. In fact I think that at least 40% of white women (possibly higher) probably will not date a black guy. But very many of the ones who wont may well want to...

You should understand that much this may come from fear of what people will think of them. Meaning that even if they are attracted to you they may be too afraid of the social pressure it would create for them to act on that attraction.

[Guest]

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I had actually tried to game this one chick and she was like "I don't date "Brothers" I only date my own kind" it was one of those "Wtf?" moments surprised me that there were still women like that and it's not like she was old, either...maybe 19-20
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I recently had a girl tell me she only dates hispanics....She is mostly right, since she only fucked me and we did very little dating.

The key is not caring. To tell you the truth I barely remembered that, that happened until I read this... I really had to think when the last time I heard something like that.

You can't let it phase you man, easier said than done I know, but honestly man, most women don't really know what they want when it comes to men. Instead they have an internal instinct that guides them. You are on the path to learn what that path that guides them is now. If you really have a problem with that, read everything you can on the subject, ask all the questions you can, and then forget it for the time being. It's like you asking yourself why you like (insert favorite hobby here) so much. You don't know until you search the answer out.... and most women don't bother searching out the answer for why they like particular qualities in men..... at least not right away.

Think of it as a shit test.... because that is exactly what it is. What has happened is she has become attracted to you, and she is looking for a reason not to let you continue. Don't give her that reason.

"Ignore anything that doesn't benefit the pick up" - Captain Jack

Her stating that she doesn't date "brothas" obviously doesn't benefit the pickup. Next time something like that is said, amp the energy up, "DUDE like seriously Brad Pitt is hot!!" Or something .....

Hope that helps.

[Kit]

I think most people have a complex about dating outside of their race. We presume that other people will judge us for doing so, so even if we like another race we may attempt to avoid the stigma we assume would go along with it.

I'm attracted to other races, but I do not know if I want to deal with the problems it may cause because relationships are hard enough already.

I do have a question though since someone brought up speaking to people in your own language. When I want to shake hands with a black person I always wonder how to shake their hand. I mean if I shake hands like I normally do I wonder if that seems as if I'm making the assumption it's the proper way? When I was much younger I did the black handshake a lot but then I realize I got confused by if I did the black handshake to a black person that wasn't wanting to do that handshake I would seem racist by assuming all blacks shake hands this way. So either way I feel like a jerk.

Help me please... and why can't we all just shake hands the same

Actually a few times I have had black guys I didn't even know grab my hand and pull me in the for the chest bump. I'm cool with that.

[dubya]

When I want to shake hands with a black person I always wonder how to shake their hand. I mean if I shake hands like I normally do I wonder if that seems as if I'm making the assumption it's the proper way? When I was much younger I did the black handshake a lot but then I realize I got confused by if I did the black handshake to a black person that wasn't wanting to do that handshake I would seem racist by assuming all blacks shake hands this way. So either way I feel like a jerk.

You're just thinking too much.
Assume it is a normal handshake and if they start to do something different just go with it.

[Muk]

just like he said. do it regular, and if the other guy does something else roll with it.

[parametric_dc]

I do have a question though since someone brought up speaking to people in your own language. When I want to shake hands with a black person I always wonder how to shake their hand. I mean if I shake hands like I normally do I wonder if that seems as if I'm making the assumption it's the proper way? When I was much younger I did the black handshake a lot but then I realize I got confused by if I did the black handshake to a black person that wasn't wanting to do that handshake I would seem racist by assuming all blacks shake hands this way. So either way I feel like a jerk.

Don't try to ingratiate yourself to other races by showing them how cool you are with their culture. At the best, it's embarrassing. At the worst, it's insulting.

Just be you. Always.