My life has definitely gone through cycles. Whether I have control over it or not...that's just how it works.
During high school...I went through uncontrollable cycles. I was just clueless and bitches wanted the smirks in them.
College I had a bit more control...I controlled it by being in a Fraternity and being active in it.
Now, I have full control. I work multiple jobs, succeed on all of them...actively pursue improvement in my game, and have finally started healing the wounds in my family life (British people are the hardest to heal family wounds with...but I'm trying.)
Yes, the happen...but if you dedicate yourself TO YOURSELF...you can have most control over them....imo.