I just got ljbf'ed!!

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You're right that it's different in that context. But I don't think the word "friend" is the problem. There's something else going on there that I can't figure out. She has a strong frame that isn't pleasant or friendly, which makes the word "friend" seem incongruent.

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[QUOTE=Rhody;36843]You're right that it's different in that context. But I don't think the word "friend" is the problem. There's something else going on there that I can't figure out. She has a strong frame that isn't pleasant or friendly, which makes the word "friend" seem incongruent.[/QUOTE]

Interesting that you mention that, but think it's just the context that makes her appear that way. From our previous conversations, she seems to be very kind and genuinely nice...

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HERE'S THE PLAY-BY-PLAY IN CAPS, FROM MY PERSPECTIVE.


HB7: I’m old. :/ 21. I’m turning 22on july 30.

Prodigy: Old? Lol, you’re a baby! ;p so what are the big plans for your 22nd?

HB7: No se. :/ Maybe go eat sushi. < I'M NOT THAT EXCITED ABOUT MY BIRTHDAY >

Prodigy: I’m not a big fan of sushi, so you can just invite me to the afterparty lol

HB7: Im not having one. Sorry. Im excited I get to wear this cute dress I bought. yay!!!

Prodigy: So you’re not going out at all afterwards? Hmm, interesting... <...I PROBABLY WOULDN'T HAVE SAID THAT, YOU'RE FISHING A LITTLE BIT AFTER THAT HOOP, BUT NO PROBLEM. YOU CATCH ON IN A SECOND>

HB7: No. I just want to go eat some sushi with my cousin and some close coworkers. Nothing big. Just me sushi and my dress.

Prodigy: Lol haha! You sound so excited about the dress...!

HB7: OF COURSE im excited!! it looks so cute on me. < FLIRTY. I WANT YOU TO SEE ME AS CUTE>

Prodigy: Haha, if you say so. Remember to send me a pic and I’ll be the judge!

HB7: Ok. :P

Prodigy: I hope your feelings don’t get hurt easily because I’m brutally honest lol < I WOULDN'T HAVE SAID THAT...BETTER TO REWARD HER WHEN SHE COMPLIES>

HB7: I could care less what you say to me. You nobody. I’m honest too.

HB7: Hey Prodigy, I was joking...you are somebody. You’re my new friend right. HUG!!!

Prodigy: lols haha. Me a nobody? Psssh, you obviously don’t know me yet! I’m the biggest douchebag dallas has to offer

Prodigy: I’d rather you be honest than a liar...

HB7: sooo your douchebag cus you just want to be one. That’s cool well good luck with that. :P WELL I know that no matter who come into my life, I will never change who I am. Im a good person AND im proud of it.

HB7: Gosshh your so proud of it. How sad. :/ I bet you are a nice guy but your just to scared to show it. Why are you scared?? Who made you scared. Was it your x. be honest with me friend

HB7: oye Prodigy. I was at the lab and just notice my text were send at different times. I hope what I sad made sense.

Prodigy: blah blah blah

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[QUOTE=Rhody;36843]You're right that it's different in that context. But I don't think the word "friend" is the problem. There's something else going on there that I can't figure out. She has a strong frame that isn't pleasant or friendly, which makes the word "friend" seem incongruent.[/QUOTE]


I'm with Rhody on this one, something seems a miss. If she's not from here, then it could just be a cultural thing. But, I find it odd that she asked such a probing question at the end of your string...the one about being scared to be nice. I'm not sure what the purpose of her saying this to you was. Setting relationship boundaries? Setting the stage tell you that she's been hurt badly in the past and isn't ready yet? Trying to get you to show off your nice side?

In my experience, when people say that they're a good person and proud of it, then they've kind of got a victim mentality. Why does everyone always hurt me? I'm a good person right? It doesn't fit in this thread and it almost seems like she's trying to send you a warning. Usually when women start getting into things like the last two texts she sent you I take a step back and re-evaluate, often times they turn out to have some serious emotional issues that always find their way out.

The last time a girl said something like that to me, she ended up telling me (a few weeks later) that she's NEVER had sex sober and launched into some weird emotional BS about her past. Not good. Damaged goods. Tread lightly.

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so i just set up a day two with this girl and it couldnt have been a worst possible day two suggestion.

she im'ed me on facebook and we start chatting about this past weekend and this upcoming weekend (her bday weekend). we get into the subject of clubs and she mentions that she's not really fond of them and prefers watching movies.

she mentioned several times on her FB status updates that she hasnt seen "Inception." to me, this was prime opportunity to strike while the iron is hot, so i tell her that i will take her to go see inception on thursday and proceed to plan the day two.

on the bright side, we'll be hanging out and i will be able to escalate (physically) and see if im in the friend zone.

the bad side is that we're going to see a movie where there isnt much opportunity for talking...

just thought id share...

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I don't think you are in the friend zone I think you are in the boyfriend zone. Those texts just seem to be flirting to me. She seems to be taking it slow with you. My guess is she is looking for a relationship and you are a possible suitor. If you like her like that you def have a chance. As for just a fuckbuddy you might be able to pull that off, but I'm not sure that's what she wants. From what has previously been said I really highly doubt that you are in the friend zone. I mean comon she is isolating both of you together in a dimly lit movie.
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In my experience, when people say that they're a good person and proud of it, then they've kind of got a victim mentality. Why does everyone always hurt me? I'm a good person right? It doesn't fit in this thread and it almost seems like she's trying to send you a warning. Usually when women start getting into things like the last two texts she sent you I take a step back and re-evaluate, often times they turn out to have some serious emotional issues that always find their way out.[/QUOTE]That's what a girl I knew said the day before she stole the dog and released it out in the middle of nowhere lol...

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I just saw Inception yesterday with a girl. It was a 2 1/2 hour movie and was more cerebral than action-packed. You really have to pay attentions. Plus, we got there early to get a good seat because I know it's a popular movie. By the time the previews were all over, I honestly asked her, "what movie are we seeing again?" I completely forgot.

So you're right, it's not the best day2 suggestion. Try to have fun with it. When I go to a movie with a girl, I like to plant a seed by saying, "let's sit in the back so if the movie is boring we can make out like a couple of high schoolers."

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Well, how did it go?

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[QUOTE=Carnal;36908]Well, how did it go?[/QUOTE]

So it was interesting. I get the vibe that she likes me, but when I tried to kino escalate, her bl was a little off. Like she was really shy and maybe a little inexperienced with sex...

though she is an attractive girl, I dot think I'll pursue this any further.

1. She seems waaaaay too nice and wants a relationship, and that's not what I'm looking for.

2. She has the potential to be a stage 5 clinger. She made us matching bracelets (This is the first time I've seen her since the night we met). Nuff said.

On a side note, inception was an awesome movie!!

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[QUOTE]She made us matching bracelets (This is the first time I've seen her since the night we met). Nuff said. [/QUOTE]

rofl