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[quote1232935947=kev18284]
PS: was at NorthPark mall today...actually went there to shop n not sarge...but I did open a hot blonde at the apple store....;)
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Dude, that Apple Store is where the party is at!
I don't understand why a place that sells such expensive items can be so busy all the time.
Nice job on approaching the hot blonde.
I have a thing for blondes, but I still get nervous when approaching them :[
Selective Approach Anxiety if you will.

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[quote1232940943=jjdog18]
Selective Approach Anxiety if you will.
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I know exactly what you mean bro. I get that too.

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[quote1232948703=Smirks]
Everything you said in response to me is basically running day game while you're out doing your daily stuff...which is great and it does happen...but my response to you was in regards to doing like scheduled day game...calling up guys and hiking around a mall, amusement park, playground, school yard...whatever you kids do! I just don't have time for it.
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The as-you-go-about-your-day type of 'day game' is the kind I'd say I'm used to.
It's really easy to open at restaurants while eating with friends etc. and I've even gotten a couple numbers while standing in line at the grocery store before.

However, I have pretty much never done the scheduled day-game sarge thing and I barely ever do freezing-cold approaches (i.e. walking around the mall, opening walking sets, etc)......doing that just feels weird to me; kinda like what Smirks said about girls (or any person really) not being interested in talking to strangers.

On the other hand, I got to thinking about it after talking about the whole day-game stuff with just/us....and I have to wonder if I'm missing out on some good stuff in being able to do these freezing-cold approaches. There are plenty of times where I'm at the store/mall/wherever and I'll see some really cute girl walking by and don't do shit about it...but kinda wish I had.

I'm not so sure the entire reason is necessarily 'AA' per se...but more like me thinking "how could I possibly start talking to that girl who's walking the other way without it seeming weird".
As I'm writing this, I'm coming up with answers to a few of my own questions.......why not just use some of the same openers you use at night ("Wait...Sarah right?").

Anyway, I do see benefit in trying out and playing around with the freezing-cold daytime approach given that I never really gave it a fair chance.
Suppose I can't knock it till I try it.

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[quote1232953396=AlphaMo]

I'm not so sure the entire reason is necessarily 'AA' per se...but more like me thinking "how could I possibly start talking to that girl who's walking the other way without it seeming weird".
As I'm writing this, I'm coming up with answers to a few of my own questions.......why not just use some of the same openers you use at night ("Wait...Sarah right?").

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Just go direct. I go direct by telling them how cute they are or how adorable they are. i just need to stop ejecting myself from a set because I don't go beyond my opener.

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[quote1232976044=AlphaMo]
Anyway, I do see benefit in trying out and playing around with the freezing-cold daytime approach given that I never really gave it a fair chance.
Suppose I can't knock it till I try it.
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Plenty of nice pussy your passing up when you do not approach them
:)
Also, I need to field test this but if she is walking in the opposite direction to you you need to do a complete 180 as she passes you and speed up right next to her and tap her lightly on the shoulder and do sweet pures opener "Hey, I saw you walking by and I thought you were kind of cute and I would absolutelt kick myself if I didn't say hi to you".
I am pretty sure they will stop when this is said to them.
And the whole "I am a complete stranger, she will not talk or want to talk to me" thing, sounds like AA to me
;)
Go balls deep into the situation.
I have approached countless daytime sets and the worst thing that has happened to me yet is a HB9 saying "oh I am actually here shopping with my bf. hes downstairs"
The bf thing is my sticking point, but there are easy ways to get around it.
My point is, the girl [b]will not[/b] blow you off.
They are in a public environment where they are not used to being approached so they won't bash you for approaching.
Trust me.

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I consider AA to be the fear of...something (getting rejected, her not talking to me, etc)...and I can honestly say the issue isn't really "fear" for me.
[Call me a sociopath and I'll fucking kill you]

I'm sure she WILL talk to me....most girls aren't blatantly rude hookerbitches....but that doesn't make it less weird/awkward/out of place feeling.

Granted, I know it can be done....and I've always believed "its only awkward if you make it awkward"; So I'll give my own (and your) advice a try.

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Regarding going direct....the more I think about it, the more it almost makes sense.
It doesn't seem like the most obvious path to take during the day (where there's not nearly as much energy as at night), but I'm having a hard time seeing it going any differently than when I go direct at night.

Ok, nuff speculating for me.
Imma go creep out some girls on campus this week and see what happens.

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[quote1233029164=Sweet Pure]
i just need to stop ejecting myself from a set because I don't go beyond my opener.
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I used to do this, and I think alot of people struggle with it.

Haven't met you, so I don't know where you're at, but the way I got over it was to just fluff until the convo gets boring. Yup you'll probably get blown out or she'll get bored...whatever. Only took me 2 or 3 nights out to work through this.

Then, later, work on making the convo more interesting w/ c&f, MM concepts, or whatever works for you.
Once you can hold a boring conversation (hell you might be surprised how not boring it really is)...then you can figure out how to make it more interesting.

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i have a huge mental thing with daygame. I feel like im crossing an unspoken line. People are handling their businesss during the day. I can and do pull numbers from meeting people during the day, but as far as scheduling it, i dont wake up early enough to find the girls my age. Night game fulfills my needs.

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Where do you guys post FR's?

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[QUOTE=Gamble;34586]Where do you guys post FR's?[/QUOTE]

There's a section for field reports under the "lounge" area. To post, you have to be a lounge member and to become a member, you have to attend one of the meetups. This is to ensure that you are not some crazy pyscho stalker bitch (among other thins...)

the lounge area also has other sections for various topics...