Do you ever call them back for an exit interview if you were blown off?

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Haven't read a few of the longer posts...because I'm becoming more and more ADD.
Hey look a squirrel.

Anyway, I was in a situation one time (before community) where around an hour into the date, I actually turned to the girl and said something like "Hey this clearly isn't working. Are you ready to go home?".

So, the elephant in the room called out I asked her on the ride home (mostly because it was a really awkward ride) why she thought things didn't work out.
It felt really weird doing it, but I wanted to know and I knew I'd probably never see her again anyway....so fuck it right.

She wound up saying she thought it was me...and I just wasn't the same person I was when we where around our mutual friends when we met.

In retrospect, this was actually probably true. I was pretty nervous on the date because I wanted it to work too much.

So the truth is I actually got some sound advice....but I'm not so sure I'd run around asking girls what went wrong anymore.
It's just kinda weird and needy sounding.

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I don't really care why. I came here to learn how to communicate with them better, not to change my personality. Just keep trying new things. After a few months or years of this shit you'll have the skills you need to be king of the jungle, and find the one or ones or none that you want. Never forget your goal, and if that goal involves changing your personality, that may be good or bad.