I think she was setting "give me emotional validation" hoops by constantly baiting you into control questions.. you did well but possibly came across a bit to direct (more so with the last line mentioning the list.. maybe include more winking smiley faces? ;) or lol's indicating that you arn't overtly concerned with whatever the outcome is.
Oh and P.S. She wants your nuts. Set the time and place :)
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by Guest » Wed Nov 26, 2008 10:53 pm
[quote1227756853=Tristan]
Oh and P.S. She wants your nuts. Set the time and place :)
[/quote1227756853]
Agreed, and I think you handled it really well for the most part.
My only advice would be that I wouldn't have asked her when she's free...but rather put out a date and let her know that's when you're free.
So instead of
depends huh? Well why dont you let me know when you are and we will have some fun ;)
I might say
depends huh? Well my friend is having a party on <>, you should come.
(Insert your own event/date/time)
Don't wait for her to come up with a date....you lead and give her one.
Its definitely not too late to set that date/time....so go for it.
If she says she's not available on the date/time you set....then I always ask when would be good for them. When she throws something out, I usually say something along the lines of 'Well I've got <> at that time on that day...but how about <>'.
Maybe I'm just a control freak, but it keeps me in the leader position and usually works for me.
Oh and P.S. She wants your nuts. Set the time and place :)
[/quote1227756853]
Agreed, and I think you handled it really well for the most part.
My only advice would be that I wouldn't have asked her when she's free...but rather put out a date and let her know that's when you're free.
So instead of
depends huh? Well why dont you let me know when you are and we will have some fun ;)
I might say
depends huh? Well my friend is having a party on <
(Insert your own event/date/time)
Don't wait for her to come up with a date....you lead and give her one.
Its definitely not too late to set that date/time....so go for it.
If she says she's not available on the date/time you set....then I always ask when would be good for them. When she throws something out, I usually say something along the lines of 'Well I've got <
Maybe I'm just a control freak, but it keeps me in the leader position and usually works for me.
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by Guest » Thu Nov 27, 2008 9:25 am
It's 8:22am and I just sent "Happy Turkey Day...gobble gobble" to 17 chicks. Simple, open, and will keep my phone blowing up ALLLL day! There's no reason to not txt her today...Sure, you may be a busy man...but you can take the 3 sec. out of your family celebration to send well wishes. Keep the 'busy' thing up, and it'll make it look like you did HER a favor by taking that time out to think of her.
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by Guest » Thu Nov 27, 2008 12:06 pm
[quote1227804069=Just/Us]
Alright, So this is a convo I had with a girl earlier through text messages. There are a few shit tests in here and I was wondering if I handled em correctly. Feel Free to comment and give advice if so inclined.
her: hey sexy
me: hey! What have you been up to?
her: nothing you? I really really really wanna see you
[b][Plan to set a date in the convo a little bit after this, shes straight handing it to you on a platter. Recognize.][/b]
me: I want to see you too...Only thing is im a bit sick right now, sneezing, sore throat. Im sure you dont want my cooties...
[b][making her invest a little here is good. ][/b]
her: haha I wouldn't care! I never get sick. You could be all over me and nothing would happen. Its been a year since I have been sick.
[b][shes pointing out what will happen when she see's you, you need not comment, at this point you should have set a time and date to show her how much of a woman she is][/b]
me: oh, bad girl! haha you are naughty. Well when are you free this week in the evening/night?
[b]When a women precludes to sexual behavior, unless you can escalate somehow(it can be done via text) don't make it a point to bring it up, Should have set a date.][/b]
her: All. Haha. Depends.
[b][shes virtually telling you shes available whenever you want her. a blank check of sorts. at this point shes been pretty blatant about her desire to let you have your way with her.][/b]
me: depends huh? Well why dont you let me know when you are and we will have some fun ;)
her: I didnt say fun! haha maybe cuddle but remember Im no fun
me: ha, ya you are right, you are no fun, you are boring! How could I forget?
her: okay then. I guess we wont hang
[b][Girl code= reverse psychology for ask me out ][/b]
me: haha! liar. You know you want to see me more than anything.
her: Maybe. But you dont wanna
[b][Girl code = Ask me out][/b]
me: I dont wanna what? See me. You are not making much sense, I see myself everyday.
her: No you dont wanna see me
[b][Girl code= ask me out already][/b]
me: No, I said I'll give you a chance as long as you're not too boring.
her: define boring
[b][hoop redefining new frame controlled by her maybe she'll try another tact to get you to recognize she's throwing herself at you][/b]
me: Well im at work now so I dont have a dictionary with me, but I could look it up when I get home.
her: omg ur a dork! You dont want me :(
[b][Girl code = ASK ME OUT!][/b]
me: That is so rude, you just called me a dork. Thats like the 48th thing you need to make up to me!
her: No! You're so mean to me. You need to make it up to me. You're breaking my heart.
[b][Girl code = .... Ask me out... please? ][/b]
me: I don't call you mean names like dork. That hurt my feelings. You owe me like 45.23 times more than I owe you...and you know it. dont lie!
her :( Im sad
[b][Girl code = Why won't you ask me out, am I defective?][/b]
me: Well you should cheer up, its a sunny day. And you might get the chance to see me soon...there is a long waiting list for that!
her: Oh im sure
[b][Girl code= Thanks ass, I feel like shit now because you can't take a hint, I like you why won't you ask me out??][/b]
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I also think she was wanting validation, however, validation comes in all forms. CJ has a rule, that I think applies very well here. [b]Only do what is necessary for the pick up. - Captain Jack[/b]
You had a lot of flirting in there. It wasn't needed in this case. You're new so you're calibration is the only thing that really needed adjusting.
You had the wrong frame in mind when you started this conversation and you failed to realize that she was already sufficiently attracted to you.
Your next message I would say needs to be this. "Hey I want to see you, Tomorrow. You. Me. A Big Mac, and shake w/TWO straws"
There is no problem giving validation as long as it's on your terms. She worked for it, she worked damn hard but she didn't get anywhere.
Alright, So this is a convo I had with a girl earlier through text messages. There are a few shit tests in here and I was wondering if I handled em correctly. Feel Free to comment and give advice if so inclined.
her: hey sexy
me: hey! What have you been up to?
her: nothing you? I really really really wanna see you
[b][Plan to set a date in the convo a little bit after this, shes straight handing it to you on a platter. Recognize.][/b]
me: I want to see you too...Only thing is im a bit sick right now, sneezing, sore throat. Im sure you dont want my cooties...
[b][making her invest a little here is good. ][/b]
her: haha I wouldn't care! I never get sick. You could be all over me and nothing would happen. Its been a year since I have been sick.
[b][shes pointing out what will happen when she see's you, you need not comment, at this point you should have set a time and date to show her how much of a woman she is][/b]
me: oh, bad girl! haha you are naughty. Well when are you free this week in the evening/night?
[b]When a women precludes to sexual behavior, unless you can escalate somehow(it can be done via text) don't make it a point to bring it up, Should have set a date.][/b]
her: All. Haha. Depends.
[b][shes virtually telling you shes available whenever you want her. a blank check of sorts. at this point shes been pretty blatant about her desire to let you have your way with her.][/b]
me: depends huh? Well why dont you let me know when you are and we will have some fun ;)
her: I didnt say fun! haha maybe cuddle but remember Im no fun
me: ha, ya you are right, you are no fun, you are boring! How could I forget?
her: okay then. I guess we wont hang
[b][Girl code= reverse psychology for ask me out ][/b]
me: haha! liar. You know you want to see me more than anything.
her: Maybe. But you dont wanna
[b][Girl code = Ask me out][/b]
me: I dont wanna what? See me. You are not making much sense, I see myself everyday.
her: No you dont wanna see me
[b][Girl code= ask me out already][/b]
me: No, I said I'll give you a chance as long as you're not too boring.
her: define boring
[b][hoop redefining new frame controlled by her maybe she'll try another tact to get you to recognize she's throwing herself at you][/b]
me: Well im at work now so I dont have a dictionary with me, but I could look it up when I get home.
her: omg ur a dork! You dont want me :(
[b][Girl code = ASK ME OUT!][/b]
me: That is so rude, you just called me a dork. Thats like the 48th thing you need to make up to me!
her: No! You're so mean to me. You need to make it up to me. You're breaking my heart.
[b][Girl code = .... Ask me out... please? ][/b]
me: I don't call you mean names like dork. That hurt my feelings. You owe me like 45.23 times more than I owe you...and you know it. dont lie!
her :( Im sad
[b][Girl code = Why won't you ask me out, am I defective?][/b]
me: Well you should cheer up, its a sunny day. And you might get the chance to see me soon...there is a long waiting list for that!
her: Oh im sure
[b][Girl code= Thanks ass, I feel like shit now because you can't take a hint, I like you why won't you ask me out??][/b]
[/quote1227804069]
I also think she was wanting validation, however, validation comes in all forms. CJ has a rule, that I think applies very well here. [b]Only do what is necessary for the pick up. - Captain Jack[/b]
You had a lot of flirting in there. It wasn't needed in this case. You're new so you're calibration is the only thing that really needed adjusting.
You had the wrong frame in mind when you started this conversation and you failed to realize that she was already sufficiently attracted to you.
Your next message I would say needs to be this. "Hey I want to see you, Tomorrow. You. Me. A Big Mac, and shake w/TWO straws"
There is no problem giving validation as long as it's on your terms. She worked for it, she worked damn hard but she didn't get anywhere.
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by Guest » Thu Nov 27, 2008 2:57 pm
hmm... this girl is a crazy. despite the fact that you did have it in the bag, she's likely to have the type of emotional problems the community wont teach you to deal with. try the turkeyday opener, and this time when she asks you indirectly to stuff her like a turkey, calmly lay out a date and say"see you then" all in the same message mind you. This kindof directs her mind to assume that she's already agreed to it unless she honestly will be busy on that date. you will want to be more direct and dominant with her. I would guess that that's the type she needs or else you could fall into the ltr catergory and then she'll be saying things like"how do i know youre worthy of me", and" I need loyalty"
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by Guest » Thu Nov 27, 2008 4:03 pm
All of this reminds me of the fact that I woke up drunk as shit today and the girl had left early in the morning w/o her top on and me butt ass naked in my bed. I was so confused... ;)
Gobble Gobble bitches
BTW, Smirks sent that to 17 girls??? Am I a girl, cause I got it from you as well.. Lol
Gobble Gobble bitches
BTW, Smirks sent that to 17 girls??? Am I a girl, cause I got it from you as well.. Lol
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