If you aren't getting laid

[Lion]

Stop wearing your baggy clothes out to the bars! Baggy, drab clothes do not make you look confident. Style makes you appear confident. Start buying your clothes form-fitting. I don't care if you are too fat or too skinny, baggy clothes do not make up for it.

You don't have to spend an arm and a leg to be fashionable either. I routinely roll out in shirts that cost less than 5 or 10 bucks, I even wear homemade shirts that have my name on them. Make sure your jeans accentuate your physique, not hide it.

And this is a big one, so listen up: Women. Notice. Your. Shoes. Quit wearing those boring black dress shoes. Save that for the office. I wear a pair of ridiculous looking moccasins, pink gator skin shoes, white Uncle Eddy 70's style dress shoes, and my secret weapon: Cowboy boots. These work especially well if you are otherwise very stylish. Save for the cowboy boots, I usually spend less than $30 on my shoes.

You will feel like a new man in some great threads. Hit the gym too, just for the confidence it will give you.

Peacocking!
Subtle peacocking works wonders, and you will get women opening you all the time. If you're completely peacocked head to toe (no offense) you look like a tool who is trying too hard. Find one item that will draw attention to you (aside from your badass clothes and shoes), but make it congruent to your personality.

Now get out there and watch the women open you!

[Smirks]

I don't agree with your opinion on shoes. Depends on the black shoe, but Women are very observant of STYLE of shoe...not just ridiculous color. If you wear a stylish black shoe...it can and work in your favor as far as fashion goes.

Follow recent style trends...basically.

[TopDog]

I don't agree with your opinion on shoes. Depends on the black shoe, but Women are very observant of STYLE of shoe...not just ridiculous color. If you wear a stylish black shoe...it can and work in your favor as far as fashion goes.

Follow recent style trends...basically.

agree. nothing wrong with black if it's stylish...but probably really wasn't your real point trying to make.

[Lion]

Thanks for the input guys. Yes, style is the most important thing when it comes to shoes. I'm not saying look like a clown, just be stylish. Of course you can wear black shoes, I was referencing the type of plain shoe one would wear if they were going to a job interview, or a funeral.

Really, just don't wear boring shoes.

[PicturePerfect]

Your confidence is projected by your inner self and your walk through the world not world that walks through you.

-PicturePerfect

[Bull Run]

Peacocking!

Subtle peacocking works wonders, and you will get women opening you all the time.

Agreed. But, in a bar almost everything about you is subtle. Think about it, how is a girl going to open you when she's surrounded by people, in a dark place, while she's been drinking when you're only subtle about your peacocking? NOTE: By 'subtle' I mean male jewelry (necks, bracelets, rings, etc.) or something along those lines not gimmicky stuff. I've NEVER had a girl open me because she liked my ring...never. I have, however, had girls talking about my peacocking after I opened them...in that context peacocking gives her a reason to talk to you, but only after you've approached.

If you're completely peacocked head to toe (no offense) you look like a tool who is trying too hard.

If you want a girl to open you, then you need to have something on your person that garners A LOT of attention. Examples would be a fedora, glasses (girls open me because of my glasses all the time), or a holiday inspired item (Mardi Gras beads, St. Patties hats, etc).

If your confident enough and playful enough, you can even pull off something completely ridiculous, AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A LEGITIMATE REASON FOR HAVING SAID ITEM. A couple of examples:

-I was in a wedding and had to wear a tux. I wanted to sarge after the reception but my friends weren't game (most are married or otherwise involved). So, I hit Uptown wearing a tux. I had a lot of attention and my response to all the girls opening me was: "You know the great thing about weddings? You get to get dressed up and I look better than all of you..."

-Not even a week ago I was out sarging with Ratio off Lower Greenville (I've been meaning to post a FR about this). As we walked into a bar, I noticed a stuffed Clifford dog pinned against the windshield of a car. I promptly went over and saved poor Clifford and brought him in the bar with me. I wasn't in the bar 5 minutes before I was opened by a chick from across the bar, literally across the other side of the venue. She fingered me over, we talked about Clifford, I had a legit reason to have Clifford, I number closed her, day2'd her a couple of days later.

The curious thing about peacocking to the extreme above goes back to PicturePerfect's take: if you're projecting inner confidence then that's all that really matters. If you're truly confident, then people will think your peacocking is cool...if you don't have strong confidence then you're a chode. Truth is you don't need to peacock if you have strong inner game, it just makes it a little easier for you because it gives girls a reason to approach that confident, sexy guy carrying a stuffed Clifford dog.

So, Lion I think you're half right. Although I suspect when you refer to congruence this is exactly what you're angling towards.

[Dragon]

Great tips by everyone.

Ok... Shoe style???
I just purchased a pair of Giorgio Brutini shoe from K&G.
Those shoes are very stylish.
I wear a size 10 and since they are narrower and longer with a square tip... it looks like a size 11 or 12 shoe.

Link:
http://www.giorgiobrutini.com/catalog/product.cfm?CFID=1245484&CFTOKEN=...

Yes, They do look a little like clown shoes.
What do you guys think cool or not?

[Lion]

I should have been so more specific when I wrote that. By subtle I don't mean rings or anything of the like. What I meant is that I'll wear one thing that truly stands out. For instance I'll wear a bandana on my head, have a bandana hanging out of my back pocket, wear a shirt that says "Greatest Dad 2006", wear cowboy boots but tuck my jeans into them, wear a homemade shirt with my name in big letters, wear pink shoes etc. Something that will draw attention to you but doesn't necassarily make you SEEM like you are trying to get attention with it. Bull Run you got it right.

[Lion]

Imager, that shoe in the natural color is pimp. I actually saw a guy at my gym the other day who had obviously came straight from work. He was wearing a pair of shoes very similar and even I wanted to go over and open him.

What color did you buy?

[Smirks]

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If you want a girl to open you, then you need to have something on your person that garners A LOT of attention. Examples would be a fedora, glasses (girls open me because of my glasses all the time), or a holiday inspired item (Mardi Gras beads, St. Patties hats, etc).

Not necessary, in my opinion (IMO.)

Last week, I started playing eye contact games, "fake" attempts at opening, and the whole smile thing (probably over used, but still) and I was opened many a time using each. Be your own flare, maybe?