How do you guys identify Shit Test. I am having some problems identifying them as this was something that I have not really paid alot of attention to until recently.
Case and Point: I was visiting my neighbor and she has been single for awhile. Anyway, she was having a garage sale and I went over and talked to her. I was just being fun and upbeat, and I busted on her a little bit for standing me up because she was supposed to give me some piano lessons a few months back and totally flaked. Anyway, she starts talking about how her ex is her soul-mate and yadda yadda. So I knew at that point I had triggered a defense, but I did not associate it with a shit test. I didn't really react either, just a polite yeah thats cool, and went on. However, later this afternoon I started thinking about the interaction and was like.. Oh! That was a shit test!
So how do you guys go about identifying shit test while in conversation? Is this something that gets better with practice or is there more of a method to it? Any suggestions, ideas, feedback is acceptable.
P.S. I did read the Tyler Durden thing and thanks for whoever posted that.
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by Guest » Sun Sep 05, 2010 7:30 pm
Grimm is right. A tiger is a tiger. You'll know one once you see one.
In the meantime, just act unaffected by what she says. That's the fall back for passing a shit test. She tests you to see your strength and resolve. You don't waiver. She's impressed. You win. Move on.
Eventually, you'll see them in real time. But, for now, just don't let them alter your reality.
In the meantime, just act unaffected by what she says. That's the fall back for passing a shit test. She tests you to see your strength and resolve. You don't waiver. She's impressed. You win. Move on.
Eventually, you'll see them in real time. But, for now, just don't let them alter your reality.
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by Guest » Sun Sep 05, 2010 11:42 pm
There is an old community adage.
Q:How do you know that the girl is shit testing you?
A: Her lips are moving.
LOL... So in the beginning you might want to watch for it...but as others have said you will start recognizing it after a while. Of all the material I have read I think TD has one of the best explanations of a shit test. So you're already in a good place. Personally for me I view a shit test as a girl throwing me a dis-qualifier. I either acknowledge it with a re-frame or simply ignore and move on.
Q:How do you know that the girl is shit testing you?
A: Her lips are moving.
LOL... So in the beginning you might want to watch for it...but as others have said you will start recognizing it after a while. Of all the material I have read I think TD has one of the best explanations of a shit test. So you're already in a good place. Personally for me I view a shit test as a girl throwing me a dis-qualifier. I either acknowledge it with a re-frame or simply ignore and move on.
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by Guest » Mon Sep 06, 2010 8:33 am
Forgive my confusion, but what the hell was she talking about? Her ex is her soul mate? Without knowing the context of the conversation, it's hard to tell what she was even saying. Was she telling you that you'll never live up to her ex? Was she telling you that she's still stuck on her ex and trying to get him back? In those two cases, I wouldn't necessarily label it as a shit test.
If she said it completely out of context to see if you would get shaken, then yeah it was a shit test.
I would have either done what you did and ignore it or what grimm did and acknowledge it positively.
I think it would be fun to try something like, "I think it's great that you found the one person who meets all your needs, not just the needs of the culturally programmed woman, the woman with rules and roles, but also the natural woman, the woman who deep down inside ponders exciting fantasies and amazing possibilities, with me, the way I see it, when you find that in one person (point to self), that is something you should grab hold of and never let go."
If she said it completely out of context to see if you would get shaken, then yeah it was a shit test.
I would have either done what you did and ignore it or what grimm did and acknowledge it positively.
I think it would be fun to try something like, "I think it's great that you found the one person who meets all your needs, not just the needs of the culturally programmed woman, the woman with rules and roles, but also the natural woman, the woman who deep down inside ponders exciting fantasies and amazing possibilities, with me, the way I see it, when you find that in one person (point to self), that is something you should grab hold of and never let go."
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by Guest » Mon Sep 06, 2010 10:26 am
I'm not sure NLP would have been the way to go in that particular interaction. That's something else I haven't really started studying yet. To place a context around her statement, she has a roommate moving out and is in a transition in her job too. (read layed off) Anyway, she was talking about maybe moving to timbuktu to be with this ex of her's because he was really her soul mate...yadda yadda. Then she went off in a completely different direction and just left that kinda sitting there. So I am pretty sure it was a shit test.
So what do you do when you know you have failed a shit test? I have failed a few, recently I failed one when the chick said, "I'm going to come to you and ask you advice about guy stuff. I should have responded with, "What do I look like? Dr. Phil?!?.. but instead I responded with an affirmative answer.. This is one of many many that I have failed.
It's becoming a new sticking point for me which is why I asked the question...
So what do you do when you know you have failed a shit test? I have failed a few, recently I failed one when the chick said, "I'm going to come to you and ask you advice about guy stuff. I should have responded with, "What do I look like? Dr. Phil?!?.. but instead I responded with an affirmative answer.. This is one of many many that I have failed.
It's becoming a new sticking point for me which is why I asked the question...
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