An Inner Game Routine

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Mentally Meet Your Ideal Girl


This is an inner game technique I have used to help with overal success rate. Works really well at establishing comfort and achieving your goals with women. Goes like this...

1. Start by listing all of the 'musts' for an ideal girl you would date. Include character traits, self esteem, physical traits, habits, etc. This is the absolute bear minimum you will tolerate. Make the list extensive and be fairly picky.
Here is my list as an example: between 5'0" and 5'7", 115-145 lbs, breast cup B or larger, hair to at least shoulder length, high school education, non-smoker, works out at least twice per week, has a fullfilling life outside of me and my friends, intelligent enough to contribute to fairly deep conversation, will watch and/or enjoy doing my favourite things, fully supportive of all of my goals in life, open to learning and trying new things, emotionally secure, loyal, honest, trustworthy, funny, thoughtful, caring/nurturing, independent, neat and tidey, is never more than 1/2 late, takes less than 1 hour to get ready for virtually anything, is a 9/10 (on my scale) or higher with makeup and an 8/10 or higher without, does not demand to be the centre of attention.

2. Then list all of the 'shoulds' for an ideal girl you would date. Again, include character traits, self esteem, physical traits, etc. This list is non-essential, but the more qualities she has from this list the better. Again, make the list extensive and be fairly picky.
Here is my list as an example (again): as athletic and fit as possible, as beautiful as possible, works out 4 or more days per week, as psychologically stable as possible, carries as little baggage as possible, as high self-esteem as possible, as ambitious as possible, has her own clear goals in life, has as many hobbies as possible, shares as much in common with me as possible, nags as little as possible, perserverent, dresses as sexy as possible.

3. For all of the character traits that you desire in your women, focus on developing them for yourself. Make realistic goals long-term and short-term goals that will get you there.

4. Feel a deep sense of gratitude for the opportunity to meet women like this, that women like this exist, and that you have (or are learning) the skill-set to meet women like this.

5. Close your eyes and visualize the woman you want in as much detail as possible. Start by painting a clear picture of her physically. What is her ethnicity? What is her hair colour and style? Eye Colour? Picture facial details like her nose, ears, lips, teeth, and skin colour. Imagine her body details like her frame size, breast size, butt shape and size, legs and arms. What does her body language and posture look like? Imagine her in the sexiest outfit you can imagine. What exactly is she wearing?

6. Involve yourself in the image. In your favourite place, imagine yourself through your own eyes interacting with her in casual conversation, laughing together, her complimenting you, etc. Hear her voice. What does her voice sound like? Smell her. What does she smell like?

7. Start getting physical with her. Touch her playfully as you continue the conversation. What does her skin feel like? Kino escalate. Kiss her neck. What does she taste like? Imagine getting physical with her as far you like. Continue to involve as many of the senses as possible.

8. Feel all of the positive emotions you would feel after being successful with this woman. Feel excited for meeting and picking up this woman. Feel proud that you achieved this. Feel worthy to be with her.

Repeat this as many times as you like. It's also a great technique for overcoming approach anxiety. It helps if you record yourself talking out these steps and then play it back to yourself so you can visualize as you go. Visualization is an excellent stepping stone for helping make all of your life goals a reality.

Credits: Tony Robbins, The Secret, Lee Pulos, and Craig Edwards