How To Tell A Girl That You Like Her...

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Question From A Reader:

“I’ve fallen in love with a close friend of mine. But because we’ve been friends for so long, I’m scared to confess my feelings to her. I’m worried that if I tell her she won’t want to be friends with me and will end the friendship. Not having her in my life would be unbearable. This is really stressing me out. Please advise me on how to go about it.”

- M from Kentucky

If you were a Miss, instead of a Mr., I’d buy the whole “I’ve developed feelings for a close friend.” But I’m willing to bet she tickled your pickle from the moment you met her.
You wanted to go in for the kill but kept chickening out. You thought, It doesn’t feel like the right time yet, and put it off.
Each time you wussed out, it made the next time a little more nerve-racking. Now it feels nigh onto impossible to cross over the invisible “friends-only” barrier.
If you confess your feelings to her, things will probably get awkward – fast.
My friend Ben suffers from a similar predicament.
A fortnight back, he called me and lamented, “I’m one of the only guys with balls big enough to approach the hottest girls in nightclubs. Yet my interactions with women always run afoul and they rope me into ‘friend zone.’ What the fuck, man?”
He isn’t kidding. Without an iota of hesitation, he’ll approach girls whose beauty puts the fear of God in the average man. He seamlessly gets their phone numbers, takes them on dates, and often convinces them to sleep in his bed. But all they do is sleep.

Nothing more.
Why do things run amok for hapless Ben?
Did the Good Lord beat him with an ugly stick with the same vigor plantation owners used to scourge unruly slaves?
Although GQ magazine would never print his mug on their cover, each night he goes out a handful of women approach him with the words, “You’re really cute.”
Is he cursed with the personality of a doorknob?
No. Not at all. In fact, he can hurl even the most uptight girl into a fit of giggles.
So I asked him, “You’ve got looks, personality, and the balls to approach any girl. At what point do you turn from their knight in shining armor into a croaking toad?”
He said, “Whenever I tell girls I like them, they always say, ‘You’re such an awesome guy, I wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship.’ I think I’m just too damn good at connecting with women.”
I laughed in his face.
Dick move, right?
Maybe.
But I wanted him to see his irrational thought process.
There’s no such thing as generating a connection with a woman so strong she eliminates you as a potential mate.
That’s like a woman saying, “I’m too good looking to attract men.”
So what’s up with Ben?
Here’s what’s up…
Even though he’s approached, charmed, and gone on dates with countless pairs of love-a-luscious titties, he hasn’t hit on a single one.
But hasn’t he expressed his feelings to women?
Yes but…
Telling a woman your feelings for her isn’t hitting on her. (Telling a woman how you feel has its place. More on that later).
What does it mean to “hit on” a girl?
Simply put, hitting on a girl is flirting.
Flirting isleading a woman to believe that sexual intimacy is possible, while preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty.
Let’s look at some examples…
Approaching a woman with, “I think you’re very beautiful and would like to take you out sometime,” shows a tremendous amount of confidence.

If a woman likes your look and is impressed with your balls, she might go out with you.

But, alas, this approach is based on how a woman judges you. Attraction solely based on how a woman judges you is hit or miss. If you use only this form of attraction on woman and she doesn’t like your looks, style, personality, age group, or social status, she’ll eliminate you as a potential mate.
More importantly, it’s not flirting and fails to build any sexual tension.
However, if you grab a woman’s hands, say, “Sweetheart, I think you’re very pretty. You and I would have a great time hanging out together. We’d probably have incredible sex… But you seem like the jealous girlfriend type… So I don’t think this relationship is going to work out. I’m breaking up you,” and then push her hands away, you’re flirting.
You’re leading her to believe that you’re possibly interested and then preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty.
This has a Push-Pull structure. The Pull dangles the bait and the Push takes it away, compelling her to chase after it.
This takes women through a range of emotions that specifically trigger sexual tension – a form of attraction that doesn’t rely on logic or judgments a woman makes about a man (Is this guy good looking enough, tall enough, rich enough, smart enough, or popular enough for me to be with him?)
Most likely, this lovely woman used Push-Pull on you, stirring you to have stronger and stronger feelings for her.
Women intuitively understand Push-Pull. From a young age, most women become aware of their sexual power over men.

They know that if they show a man a little interest and then take it away, he’ll brim with lust and be at their beck and call.
But they also unintentionally use it. Most relationship experts purport that women decide within the first 30 seconds if they’re going to sleep with a guy. What a giant and steamy trough of B.S.
The Truth: women decide within the first 30 seconds if they’re NOT going to sleep with a man.
If they haven’t eliminated the man as a potential mate within the first 30 seconds, they’ll subconsciously oscillate between “I want him to stick his P in my V” and “No, I don’t” hundreds of times before they sleep with him.
If you haven’t kissed her by the end of your first date, you’ve made her decision easy. She’ll put you into “friend-zone.” End of story.
If you don’t flirt – use Push-Pull – with a woman, you’re leaving the decision to sleep with you up to her. Alas, she’ll usually settle on a resounding, “No, I’m not sleeping with this guy.”
But when you use Push-Pull, something magical happens…
It changes the frame from the woman deciding if she’s going to sleep with you to her – sometimes obsessively – worrying about you wanting to sleep with her.
Once you’ve flipped this switch in her mind, it’s time for you to express your feelings for her.
Women love sex and many are open to having a one-night-stand.
But there’s one last hurdle to get past…
More often than not, before a woman spreads her legs for a man, she needs to know that he likes her beyond her beauty or willingness to satisfy his every sexual whim.
You need to find things you genuinely like about a woman.
You can probe for these things by using questions that make women qualify (or prove) themselves to you.
Here are some examples:

What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done in the last year?
Where’s the last place you travelled to?
What’s the last book you’ve read?
Are you a good cook?
If a girl demonstrates that she’s well-travelled and adventurous, you could say, “I like that you’re well-travelled and adventurous. And you make an expression that’s so cute but I don’t want to tell you what it is because you’ll stop doing it.”
She’ll literally beg you to tell her. Not to mention, it will build even more sexual tension.
This will not only circumvent any feeling that you’re just using her as a masturbation pocket but also make her feel like she’s earned your affection.
A harsh dose of reality: If flirting, building sexual tension, and physically escalating are skills you lack, you’ll find yourself in “friend-zone” with the women you want over and over again.
If you want the girls most men don’t have a snowballs chance with, you need get these skills down pat.
Inside Real World Seduction 2.0 you’ll receive a Ph.D. education on flirting, building sexual tension, and physically escalating – giving you the power and choice with the women you desire.

Imagine a woman attractive enough to make most men empty their wallets.

Yet after men take her out for a bankrupting night on the town, all they receive is a "thank you for the jewelry" and a kiss on the cheek.

What if, unlike all the other chumps, you could fill her with attraction so strong, she'd literally beg you for sex even though you didn't spend a single dime on her?

What if the sexual tension you sparked in her was so power, your looks, social status, and age didn't matter?

What would that be like?

[ninjamatt]

I'm copying this article I found to below. If your in a reading mode feel free. Interesting concepts I'm guilty of:




Question From A Reader:

“I’ve fallen in love with a close friend of mine. But because we’ve been friends for so long, I’m scared to confess my feelings to her. I’m worried that if I tell her she won’t want to be friends with me and will end the friendship. Not having her in my life would be unbearable. This is really stressing me out. Please advise me on how to go about it.”

- M from Kentucky

If you were a Miss, instead of a Mr., I’d buy the whole “I’ve developed feelings for a close friend.” But I’m willing to bet she tickled your pickle from the moment you met her.
You wanted to go in for the kill but kept chickening out. You thought, It doesn’t feel like the right time yet, and put it off.
Each time you wussed out, it made the next time a little more nerve-racking. Now it feels nigh onto impossible to cross over the invisible “friends-only” barrier.
If you confess your feelings to her, things will probably get awkward – fast.
My friend Ben suffers from a similar predicament.
A fortnight back, he called me and lamented, “I’m one of the only guys with balls big enough to approach the hottest girls in nightclubs. Yet my interactions with women always run afoul and they rope me into ‘friend zone.’ What the fuck, man?”
He isn’t kidding. Without an iota of hesitation, he’ll approach girls whose beauty puts the fear of God in the average man. He seamlessly gets their phone numbers, takes them on dates, and often convinces them to sleep in his bed. But all they do is sleep.

Nothing more.
Why do things run amok for hapless Ben?
Did the Good Lord beat him with an ugly stick with the same vigor plantation owners used to scourge unruly slaves?
Although GQ magazine would never print his mug on their cover, each night he goes out a handful of women approach him with the words, “You’re really cute.”
Is he cursed with the personality of a doorknob?
No. Not at all. In fact, he can hurl even the most uptight girl into a fit of giggles.
So I asked him, “You’ve got looks, personality, and the balls to approach any girl. At what point do you turn from their knight in shining armor into a croaking toad?”
He said, “Whenever I tell girls I like them, they always say, ‘You’re such an awesome guy, I wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship.’ I think I’m just too damn good at connecting with women.”
I laughed in his face.
Dick move, right?
Maybe.
But I wanted him to see his irrational thought process.
There’s no such thing as generating a connection with a woman so strong she eliminates you as a potential mate.
That’s like a woman saying, “I’m too good looking to attract men.”
So what’s up with Ben?
Here’s what’s up…
Even though he’s approached, charmed, and gone on dates with countless pairs of love-a-luscious titties, he hasn’t hit on a single one.
But hasn’t he expressed his feelings to women?
Yes but…
Telling a woman your feelings for her isn’t hitting on her. (Telling a woman how you feel has its place. More on that later).
What does it mean to “hit on” a girl?
Simply put, hitting on a girl is flirting.
Flirting isleading a woman to believe that sexual intimacy is possible, while preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty.
Let’s look at some examples…
Approaching a woman with, “I think you’re very beautiful and would like to take you out sometime,” shows a tremendous amount of confidence.

If a woman likes your look and is impressed with your balls, she might go out with you.

But, alas, this approach is based on how a woman judges you. Attraction solely based on how a woman judges you is hit or miss. If you use only this form of attraction on woman and she doesn’t like your looks, style, personality, age group, or social status, she’ll eliminate you as a potential mate.
More importantly, it’s not flirting and fails to build any sexual tension.
However, if you grab a woman’s hands, say, “Sweetheart, I think you’re very pretty. You and I would have a great time hanging out together. We’d probably have incredible sex… But you seem like the jealous girlfriend type… So I don’t think this relationship is going to work out. I’m breaking up you,” and then push her hands away, you’re flirting.
You’re leading her to believe that you’re possibly interested and then preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty.
This has a Push-Pull structure. The Pull dangles the bait and the Push takes it away, compelling her to chase after it.
This takes women through a range of emotions that specifically trigger sexual tension – a form of attraction that doesn’t rely on logic or judgments a woman makes about a man (Is this guy good looking enough, tall enough, rich enough, smart enough, or popular enough for me to be with him?)
Most likely, this lovely woman used Push-Pull on you, stirring you to have stronger and stronger feelings for her.
Women intuitively understand Push-Pull. From a young age, most women become aware of their sexual power over men.

They know that if they show a man a little interest and then take it away, he’ll brim with lust and be at their beck and call.
But they also unintentionally use it. Most relationship experts purport that women decide within the first 30 seconds if they’re going to sleep with a guy. What a giant and steamy trough of B.S.
The Truth: women decide within the first 30 seconds if they’re NOT going to sleep with a man.
If they haven’t eliminated the man as a potential mate within the first 30 seconds, they’ll subconsciously oscillate between “I want him to stick his P in my V” and “No, I don’t” hundreds of times before they sleep with him.
If you haven’t kissed her by the end of your first date, you’ve made her decision easy. She’ll put you into “friend-zone.” End of story.
If you don’t flirt – use Push-Pull – with a woman, you’re leaving the decision to sleep with you up to her. Alas, she’ll usually settle on a resounding, “No, I’m not sleeping with this guy.”
But when you use Push-Pull, something magical happens…
It changes the frame from the woman deciding if she’s going to sleep with you to her – sometimes obsessively – worrying about you wanting to sleep with her.
Once you’ve flipped this switch in her mind, it’s time for you to express your feelings for her.
Women love sex and many are open to having a one-night-stand.
But there’s one last hurdle to get past…
More often than not, before a woman spreads her legs for a man, she needs to know that he likes her beyond her beauty or willingness to satisfy his every sexual whim.
You need to find things you genuinely like about a woman.
You can probe for these things by using questions that make women qualify (or prove) themselves to you.
Here are some examples:

What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done in the last year?
Where’s the last place you travelled to?
What’s the last book you’ve read?
Are you a good cook?
If a girl demonstrates that she’s well-travelled and adventurous, you could say, “I like that you’re well-travelled and adventurous. And you make an expression that’s so cute but I don’t want to tell you what it is because you’ll stop doing it.”
She’ll literally beg you to tell her. Not to mention, it will build even more sexual tension.
This will not only circumvent any feeling that you’re just using her as a masturbation pocket but also make her feel like she’s earned your affection.
A harsh dose of reality: If flirting, building sexual tension, and physically escalating are skills you lack, you’ll find yourself in “friend-zone” with the women you want over and over again.
If you want the girls most men don’t have a snowballs chance with, you need get these skills down pat.
Inside Real World Seduction 2.0 you’ll receive a Ph.D. education on flirting, building sexual tension, and physically escalating – giving you the power and choice with the women you desire.

Imagine a woman attractive enough to make most men empty their wallets.

Yet after men take her out for a bankrupting night on the town, all they receive is a "thank you for the jewelry" and a kiss on the cheek.

What if, unlike all the other chumps, you could fill her with attraction so strong, she'd literally beg you for sex even though you didn't spend a single dime on her?

What if the sexual tension you sparked in her was so power, your looks, social status, and age didn't matter?

What would that be like?

I read the first paragraph but not M from Kentucky. Is M some "ask Abby" thing?

the way I would first approach the situation is to not try or make it obvious he's in love with this girl.One thing that most guys forget is that having female friends who they don't fuck or do not try to fuck is usually a positive. Guys just have to learn which girls make good friends and which are fuckable.

where I am from, there are certain women in any social circle or bar scene you don't try to fuck or develop feelings for b/c their friendship, conversation, and respect will get you further with larger network of girls. It seems that way in Uptown. Popular 23 to 29 year old 10's or close who hang out in clubs all the time are not usually the ones you want to try to fuck unless you have a lot of experience and/or a lot of status

If I were to try to answer the original question, I would have to know much more about the scenario.