First Phone Call help.

[Guest]

I just posted a field report about a day 2 I just set up. I looked thru the forum to see if I could find anything related specifically to this. However, I came up short.

So the question is.. Are there any tips/tricks/techniques, you guys use when first setting up a day 2 on the phone. Is there a structure in place that you guys use? Don't get me wrong, I don't want to read from a script, but I do want to feel more confident when I talk to them on the phone.

I don't know that it's good to go with the same material you used at the previous venue/online whatever. I am not comfortable with that, and I don't know what it is, but I have ALWAYS, no matter how many times I have set up day 2's felt nervous about it. I've set up about 29-31 day 2's in the last year. You would think that I would stop feeling nervous after awhile but it just doesn't seem to go away. Suggestions, help, please?

[Guest]

Mistake #1 is to think too much.

-Always state your name and how they know you. Helps put them at ease.

-First question is to ask "how are you doing". I know its stupid but women think its important and its kind of an ice breaker.

-Next I usually cut into something that we have in common. For instance I called this chic last night that is into bikes like I am so I got a conversation going by asking her if she's been riding lately.

-After a brief convo about a common interest, I then set up a date.

5minutes tops. I use that same format all the time. If I find my self contemplating what I am going to say, I call my self a pussbag and dial the number instantly.

She's just a damn girl, you're stronger than her anyways. Afterall, you're the one with the balls to call.

[Guest]

I've never stated my name and how they know me. I just say "What's up pumpkin butt?" They should know who you are based on something like that. IF they ask who you are then you can tease them or neg them for not remembering someone so awesome.

I make myself seem like I'm in the middle of somthing so I make it short and sweet.

Bull Run: "What's up pumpkin butt?"
HB Phone: "Hey you! What are you doing?"
Bull Run: "Organizing my DVD collection based on the last name of the Lead Grip..."
HB Phone: "Hahaha"
Bull Run: "So, let's go out xyz day and grab an adult beverage...we can have a battle of wits to the death OR a dance fight whatev..."
HB Phone: If she accepts
Bull Run: "Excellent. I'll swing by and pick you up at 8pm all proper-like."
HB Phone: Blah, blah, blah

HB Phone: If she doesn't accept, then she needs to offer an alternative time. "Can't do xyz day, how about abc day?"
Bull Run: "Hmmm...abc day is a BIG social investment but I guess I can make an exception just for you but only if you look hot that night."
HB Phone: Blah, blah
Bull Run: "I'll pick you up at 8pm all proper-like."

HB Phone: If she declines and doesn't offer an alternative time. Then get off the phone as soon as possible without making yourself sound let down. I usually say something like: "Sucks for you that your busy...anyways, I need to run I think my dog just swallowed a bug..." Click.

I'll hit her back up in a few days with a text opener. No response or a coy response and I'll next her.

You shouldn't be on the phone more than 5-10 minutes.

[Guest]

I agree with all that was said above. You want to keep it short and simple.

Voice tonality is also important. you really need to calm your nerves because you will be able to hear it in your voice. Try to be cool, calm, collected and confident.

[Guest]

I always get a little nervous when setting up days 2's which is why I felt compelled to reply to this post. Its normal in my opinion. Inner game has been important for me. You'll find my reply here is heavy in the inner game department. Excuse my randomness I'm writing on my lunch break...

This may be basic information to you. Its what has worked very well for me ( specifically in building confidence for setting up day 2's). Hope it helps...

Have a hand written list of all of your accomplishments (dhv's) to date such, as goals, and passions. This is good to have in case you have a mental block. Write down where you are going what are you doing and what are your likes and dislikes. Also make a similar list of your flaws.. Review this over and over.
Prepare a list of all the events going on in dallas for that week (dates and times). Be aware of restaurants or bars that have special days like $.25 margaritas at Glorias. Pick up a Dallas Observer or similar to get this info. This is good prepartion, in case she declines a certain day of the week, you will have a backup plan. Its always good to know exactly whats going on in your city. Having this kind of preparation should help ease some stress.

If ever I felt nervous I would scan over my list and remind myself of my value - i.e. owning a house, having a degree, career, friends, past and current girl friends, etc.. etc.. Often times I would forget that the things I have done in my life reflect the value that a woman would find attractive.

I found when I'm juggling women I wouldnt get nervous anymore. When meeting new women all the game tactics just naturally come into place because I'm getting alot of pussy...

Another approach is the not giving a fuck attitude. Just repeat in your head that you dont give a fuck what this little girl thinks of you. You have fucked better and hotter... Fuck it. It works great to reduce the thinking and get into that frame of mind untill you figure out how to develop confort with this chic.

One other thing I would do is call a girl that I already have a relationship or friendship with and get into a social vibe with her. You could even call your buddy to get your mind off this girl and get into a talkative state beforehand. Once you get the warm and fuzzies call the new chic. Your energy will transfer.

Make the call. Keep your list and research available in case you need it.