Welcome Back

[Guest]

Does success find us? Or do we find Success? "Chance favors the prepared mind". Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure. Are you willing to sweat blood and tears? I remember as a kid I would get so frustrated when I couldn't figure something out. My parents would ask to help but my stubbornness refused their assistance. I can remember getting so upset that I couldn't do something that I would start crying. Tears running down my face, flustered, and then. And then at that point determination would kick into overdrive and I would often, nay always, succeed. When you want something so badly that you refuse to take no for an answer you will succeed. Holy fucking shit that paragraph just motivated me. I am currently mad at myself for not busting ass lately. I definitely don't have a prepared mind.

To quote my good friend Bull Run, You must be Hungry in order to find success. Damn you Bull Run, why do you have to be correct. Marking my return to this frivolous life style of going out drinking, and hoping I meet some beauties, I find myself with a low level of motivation. Just the opposite of my desire when I first embarked on my original journey just under 3 years ago. I question how do I get my mind proper again, and will I ever.

I've often wondered why so many people joined the community, stuck around for a short period of time, and then were never seen again. Success often eludes us, so much so, that we give up before we see the fruits of our labor. This game might possibly be the most challenging one I have ever played. The starting point is different for all of us, often dictated at birth. Even with my past success, knowledge, and everything else I picked up along the way I still find it insanely difficult. Everything I know almost feels like a hindrance at times. I question every minute detail, and second guess every move I make.

So now I must ask, can I be successful without being hungry, and if so how. Or if I can't go that route, how do you find the hunger again. I originally joined the community to find a part of life that was missing. Joining the community for me was two parts. To meet women, and to live the party lifestyle once in my life. I have now done both of those so now what. I really don't have a desire to fuck a lot of girls anymore. My mind is actually leaning more towards finding a girl to, dare I say call my girlfriend.

Yes Ma'am, can you imagine the old days. Times must have been so easy back then. You tell a girl she is pretty, you show up with some flowers on your first date. You take the girl to get a milkshake and next thing you know the two of you are going steady. You get drafted and before you leave you get married. No game was required. Like clockwork, men and women paired off. A quaint little lifestyle that brought man and woman together. These relationships ended up lasting for decades, usually until death. Kind of hard questioning the way our grandfathers did things. Being a gentleman is where it was at.

Now I find myself being an Aloof, Nonchalant, ASSHOLE, in order to attract the women I desire. How the fuck can that be correct. I just want to be and act like my grandfather did. I want to be polite, open doors, nurture and provide for her. Does our current society really frown upon that? Even though I have been out of the game for 18 months upon my return I am thinking it does. Looks like I will go right back down the path of being an asshole. playercool You're such an asshole. I must have heard that a million times. Looks like a broken record will start repeating itself. How Nice.

I told myself If I got back into the game I must approach any girl I find highly desirable. If I wasn't willing to do that then what is the point. My confidence is so low these days I wonder if this is a questionable thought process. If I do approach said beauty, won't I just get blown out? Well I will with these horrible thoughts that is certain. Success breeds success. So I will cut a few heads off my totem poll, be humble, and start my path with sub-par girls. I will actively seek girls who I deem lower quality, not as good looking, and start building my confidence again. I will be a user of these girls. Yes, I am admitting being a piece of shit in order to serve my own goals. I am a little upset at these last few sentences. This is the only way I know how to rebuild myself though. It was the way I originally started, not be choice, just by randomness and I still offer it as advice to anyone struggling.

Having a few girls on hook does wonders for your confidence. A testament to this was Prodigy walking in this morning, hung-over, yet giddy with delight that he currently had 4 girls on the hook. I must admit that glow brought jealousy(the good kind) and gave me a little motivation. If I can't find success I shall live vicariously through those who do, until I find my own.

[Guest]

Welcome back!!

I think the only thing holding you back is your lack of confidence at this point, of which, I'm sure you'll rebuild fairly quickly.

It's good to see you getting back into the game. I need to learn some asshole game from you lols. And thanks for the shout out! ;p

awwhhhwhh yeeeaaaahhh! The "cool" is heeeeeyyyeaaa!

[Guest]

I see we've traveled some similar roads. I've had some of the same thoughts and experiences as you.

I often wish I knew less about women. Sometimes i feel like I am a damn Psychologist dealing with their f'ing issues and trying to stay one step ahead and in control of the relationship. But then I remember what I am dealing with and tell myself "If i used my emotions and feelings to make my decisions in life I'd be as fucked up as they are"!

Yeah its too bad we were raised to be "gentlemen" by our mothers and fathers. It just doesn't work with modern day woman. I'm on board with the "Aloof, Nonchalant, ASSHOLE" to garner success. Maybe its the type of women we go after?

Just last night I called up one of my favorite girls to confirm our plans for tonight. She put me on ignore and gave me the run around. So this morning she got a text from me that let her know I wasn't pleased and I called her out on her stupid behavior. And in typical female fashion, she won't admit she was wrong and manipulates the situation accusing me of getting too worked up and acting too sensitive! OK bitch I'll go back to being that "aloof, nonchalant, asshole" that seems to keep your little twat in line. They have no clue what a fucking asshole I can be. Every time I bring out my sensitive caring side I get the door slammed in my face. Sometimes they just like a little drama....its healthy for their tender little hearts! ;-)

I have achieved my goals in regards to what this game has to offer. Been there done all the crazy stuff. Got stories about nights with women I can only tell my best male friends. Road the roller coaster, jumped on and off the crazy train, experienced the high's and the lows. But I've reached the point in the past year that I want some damn stability in my life. I don't want to keep playing the stupid dating game. I no longer have the desire to fuck every girl I get in bed with(althought I have a relapse every now and then :-)). I'm trying to figure out how to achieve a successful ltr. I've definitely had to tone down my "game" a bit. Instead of being "hungry" maybe being "thirsty" is the correct approach in going after a "girlfriend".

Just enjoy these women for their company and all the good things about them(like pretty boobies, flat tummies, nice long legs, beautiful sexy hair, and tight asses)! :D lol

Stay thirsty my friend and always remain a challenge. And never forget women are only accessories, never forget the power of "ignore", and always remember that the person who cares least about the relationship always has the most control! Thats all I know about these beautiful creatures and it took over 30years to learn it.



PC- check yo messages!

[Guest]

[QUOTE=playercool;38473]

Yes Ma'am, can you imagine the old days. Times must have been so easy back then. You tell a girl she is pretty, you show up with some flowers on your first date. You take the girl to get a milkshake and next thing you know the two of you are going steady. You get drafted and before you leave you get married. No game was required. Like clockwork, men and women paired off. A quaint little lifestyle that brought man and woman together. These relationships ended up lasting for decades, usually until death. Kind of hard questioning the way our grandfathers did things. Being a gentleman is where it was at.

Now I find myself being an Aloof, Nonchalant, ASSHOLE, in order to attract the women I desire. How the fuck can that be correct. I just want to be and act like my grandfather did. I want to be polite, open doors, nurture and provide for her. Does our current society really frown upon that? Even though I have been out of the game for 18 months upon my return I am thinking it does. Looks like I will go right back down the path of being an asshole. playercool You're such an asshole. I must have heard that a million times. Looks like a broken record will start repeating itself. How Nice.

I told myself If I got back into the game I must approach any girl I find highly desirable. If I wasn't willing to do that then what is the point. My confidence is so low these days I wonder if this is a questionable thought process. If I do approach said beauty, won't I just get blown out? Well I will with these horrible thoughts that is certain. Success breeds success. So I will cut a few heads off my totem poll, be humble, and start my path with sub-par girls. I will actively seek girls who I deem lower quality, not as good looking, and start building my confidence again. I will be a user of these girls. Yes, I am admitting being a piece of shit in order to serve my own goals. I am a little upset at these last few sentences. This is the only way I know how to rebuild myself though. It was the way I originally started, not be choice, just by randomness and I still offer it as advice to anyone [/QUOTE]

I don't think it was any different 60 years ago than it is today. Sure, that's the stereo type that everything was rainbows and bunnies, but I doubt it. Woman can't help what attracts them to someone. I'm sure you have heard the saying attraction isn't a choice. Evolution doesn't change that quickly, it's a slow process that takes millions of years. The reason women prefer alphas goes back to the beginning of the human race.

The only difference is that women are more open about their sluttyness today, it is more socially acceptable to sleep around now. Pre-marital sex is no longer taboo. Even if you were a polite beta back in the day that brought flowers and was super chiverlous (sp?), that alone isn't going to make her lips between the hips wet. The perfect housewife still cheated on her husband on the side if he wasn't doing his job, it just wasn't talked about as much.

Even today, pop culture, in movies and music tell us that being a nice guy, that giving flowers and confessing our feelings is the way to a woman's heart. It's an outwrite lie, and is why so many of us have or have had bad social programming.

Alphas always have and always will reap the benefit of being alpha. Even in animal populations.

[Guest]

Great post man. I've faced a severe lack of motivation for the past month, until Friday when I forced myself to open and blow out a lot of sets. Hopefully, that continues.

I think the asshole game is one way. And from what I've seen, asshole game will probably get you the most girls. But, I can't bring myself to be an asshole. And I know I'm losing quite a few girls because of that. However, there are enough out there who like guys like me that it's OK. (The interesting thing is, I don't see myself as an asshole, but I know some of my friends think I can be a jerk with girls I've dated.)

You can still be Alpha and bring up the value of people around you, as opposed to pushing their value down. Alpha != Asshole.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=playercool;38473]Having a few girls on hook does wonders for your confidence.[/QUOTE]

I'm getting ready to walk out the door to party with you my friend.

But, as I've told many others before, closing a woman, fucking a woman, having a woman fall in love with you are all amazing things that should be enjoyed and reveled (sp?) in.

BUT, they CANNOT define you. When your mood is affected by the decisions of others, then you truly are a slave to the world. We are taxed, we are fooled into buying shit we don't need, we are playing against a stacked deck in this world. There is ONE thing you can control and OWN. No one can take it away from you without your permission...

That one thing:

How you feel about yourself.

That's yours. OWN it. In a world of leases, instant gratification, and lack of personal responsibility, all you have left to trust and rely upon is YOU. Do not allow the world to impact how you feel about yourself...

They suck, you don't.

Good luck my friend.

[Guest]

You're a rock sitting on top of a hill. Just start that rock rolling, and it won't take too much effort or thought to keep on going.

I'm glad you're all about going out again. Not crazy like before, but that you've decided you want to meet girls. You know, that made me think yesterday and today a bit, that a couple months ago I was all gung-ho about gaming again, hell I even bought an undercover camera. Lately, I'm passive as fuck... just don't really care that much. Motivation is a funny thing. Kind of comes and goes.

One thing I've noticed about you is you seem to be motivated by competition. Why don't you and Prodigy challenge each other, that might light a fire under your ass.