Does Attraction Ever End For Women?

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A recent experience with an ex-gf as well as a few other recent experiences (possibly including the girl from my [URL="http://www.dallaslair.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5567"]last long thread[/URL] trying yet again to get my attention last Saturday night at a bar) made me wonder if it's possible for strong attraction toward a man to ever die. My theory might be wrong, but I'm starting to think that once you get to a certain level of comfort with a woman, her attraction for you will never go away. It may diminish over time, it may seem nonexistent at other times, it may even be situationally impossible to fulfill, but the seeds are always firmly planted and ready to grow, just as long as you make the right moves. Without going too much into specifics, I know in the past I've made some terrible attraction-killing mistakes with many women, engaged in what I thought to be irreparably destructive beta/AFC behaviors, and yet surprised myself by somehow managing in time to bounce back. Have I just been lucky, or is there something to what I'm saying?

Perhaps as a friend of mine who is a natural recently theorized, women keep most all the men they have ever had sex with in their life in constant rotation "just in case". Basically, it's easier and less shameful than having to go out and find a stranger to sleep with (he also has an interesting theory that there is always some level of attraction between all boy/girl platonic friendships, which is highly debatable, but perhaps for a different thread).

Now I'm not trying to suggest that every man's ex-gf is always clamoring to get back together with him. At a certain point eventually the logic of two people who aren't meant for each other will overrule even the strongest attraction. And sometimes, it's honestly better to save yourself some serious trouble by not reinitiating the latent attraction within a woman, But it seems that, at the very least, an inkling of attraction stays with women forever. What do you guys think?

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I'm not sure we ever really let go of love past. It's like a drug. I think it's the memories of being around someone who made you feel so good in the past making it so enticing to take another hit. I think with time memories will fade and our minds will fill in the gaps with our current views on reality. So with time a girl's attraction will fade. The real question is how strong of memories you have created inside her? If it's very strong then she could be attracted for a very long time, but probably not forever.

I also think that with a certain level of comfort with a girl they are just more forgiving of your beta behaviors. People with a more positive view on life tend to structure their memories in a way that downplays negative emotions. In order to deal with the negative emotions in a positive way a part of her must remain attracted until the memories fade enough that she can mold them into something completely different. Also anxiety tends to increase arousal. Who is not a little anxious standing right next to an ex? Throw in a little small talk to make each other comfortable and voila the ingredients for a one night stand.

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It depends.

If you're an alpha male, women from your past will very likely still find you to be attractive. The reason is because you're an alpha male, but not because you're YOU (if that makes sense, it's the alpha they want not Joe Bob from Ft. Worth). BUT, they're also comfortable with you and you are no longer intimidating the same way other alphas are that they do not know intimately. As such, she's much more willing to have sex with you again because you're alpha and she's comfortable with you.

How hot is she? If she has the ability to attract other alpha males with ease, then she'll probably not harbor as much attraction towards you because you are not really all that scarce. She can get other alphas.

If you're a beta male then she probably wasn't really THAT attracted to you to begin with and once you leave she certainly won't be any longer.

I don't think it has anything at all to do with the terms of the 'break-up' or the reasons you stopped seeing her. I think it all depends on how alpha you are and how hot she is.

If you're really alpha, and she's a 6 or lower she'll love you forever (and will, at the drop of a hat, fuck you if you show interest in fucking her).

If you're really alpha and she's a 7 she'll be fond of you and your time together and she would be open to fucking again (this will require some effort but it's just a go through the motions sort of thing, no real Game needs to be run on your part).

If you're really alpha and she's an 8, then she'll still harbor lukewarm feelings and if you wish to fuck her again you'll have to show her how alpha you are and you'll have to re-Game her (but she'll be open to such overtures).

If you're really alpha and she's a 9+, then she'll probably shun your ass while she hangs on the arm of a fellow alpha male.

One exception trumps all of the above 'rules,' however. If she's with a beta male and you're an alpha male, it matters not how hot she is, she'll always want to open her legs for you (something similiar happened to me just yesterday).

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That is why a girlfriend with a Facebook or Myspace account is a ticking time bomb.

Any guy from her past, who dumped her before she dumped him, can contact her again, at any point in the future, and fuck her.

It doesn't matter what you bring to the table. The boring, predictable boyfriend is what you become in her mind, there's no escaping it if you keep a girl in your life too long.

I've saw, first hand, a marriage that was destroyed by Facebook.