Facing Fears

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Hey All, wanted to share a quick story about my past weekend.

Because I'm in an LTR which I respect and am committed to the relationship; I have to find alternative means of quenching my thirst for exploring social dynamics at a scientific level.

Here we go...

Right now, immediately, search in the back of your head and try to find something that you may [B]FEAR[/B] doing. It doesn't matter how large or small this fear may be. You could have a an oddly intense fear of Sharks (like my girlfriend) or you may have a fear of approaching mix sets, or even a fear of heights.

Do not allow fear to suppress your life!!! We fuel Fear with energy. Fear causes our minds to produce chemicles that make us act strangely or avoid activities alltogether. But behind fear is [B]OPPORTUNITY[/B]. A huge reward is waiting behind the door labeled FEAR and you won't be able to experience what that reward is until you open the door.

One of my many fears is a lack of transportation. When I first moved to Dallas from Houston for my career I had a huge fear of being stranded in a big city and not having a friend to help me out. Because of this I decided to move to Uptown a 1/4 mile from where I work. I also decided to lease a new car instead of keeping or buying a used one.

Heres my story...

I turned my lease in last week and decided against getting another vehicle. Soo I'm on foot untill I get a bicycle. :D The reward I recieved by deciding to go without a car was/is incredible! I have faced my fear to the extreme and I am relying primarily on my social skills to get rides.

This past friday I had Jury duty, a dart bus pass, no car, no cell phone, $20 in my back pocket, and decided I was going to turn down my girls offer to loan me her mini cooper for the day. Instead of using the dart pass I decided to push my social skills and fear to the limit.

I decided to hitch hike my way to Frank Crowly Court on Riverside dr! In the move Fight club Tyler Durden states "How much can you know about yourself if you've never been in a fight?" I'd like to add to that by saying "how much can you know about yourself if you've never Hitch Hiked your way through a busy city!!"

After getting over the initial anxiety of sticking my thumb out for my first ride, I decided that wasn't really a good enough test.
I needed to linguisticly game someone for a ride. And after opening up a ton of people I eventually started to calibrate my story based off of the reactions I was getting from people from my first opener. I suppose you could say I was developing Myelin lol...

I discovered 2 important things during this experiment. Sometimes you have to stretch the truth to get what you want. For example: I couldnt tell people that I needed a ride because I was doing a social experiment, please help. But I[I] could[/I] tell people, "My friend dropped me off down-town and now I can't get ahold of them because my cell phone isn't working. I'm stranded, do you think I could hitch a ride just up the road? The second thing I discovered is too avoid giving people ALL the details, its unnecessary, people are busy, get to the point.
Rather than opening people and dropping some long fucking story about my situation I opened people stating "I have had the most interesting Day" and pause, and then give them bits and pieces. The less info they recieved, following a situational interesting opener, the more they invest in the conversation and ultimately, this is what got me free rides.

I ended up getting to the Court 10 minutes late and had to reschedule my Jury duty for another month, but the experience was absolutely price less so i didnt mind too much. Plus my Boss didn't even care much about missing a day of work after hearing my story!

I hope You guys take the opportunity to face YOUR fears. It is highly rewarding to do soo, and please inform about your JOURNEY

Cheers.