Opinions Wanted on Party

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Finesse;33895]I doubt very seriously it'll be as easy as you let on; you're starting out with 2 strikes. Unless I have misjudged the frame, Shit tests in you're future, I see.[/QUOTE]

I have the day2 set up.

I think she was issuing a congruence test. She has no idea what I was doing on those two nights. Was I with another woman? (Actually, on Thanksgiving I was with another woman.) Was I with my son? Did I prefer to be with my friends? I think she wanted to see if I would cave and apologize and tell her what I was really doing. I matched her broken record routine with my own. I stayed congruent and kept the mystery. So I think I passed the test. For now. Women never stop testing.

In hindsight, I think she was saying, "I know you have your son," to probe me to see if I would say, "yeah, I was with my son on Saturday night." Consciously, she probably wanted me to say that, but subconsciously, she probably prefers the mystery and the challenge.

Even if I did have my son, that is a N.U.T. for me. Any woman in my life is going to be in second place tops. So it was pretty cool of her to say that. I thought it was significant unsolicited compliance.

[Guest]

All of it handled a little differently than I would have, but in the end still turned out all right. It seems that alot of guys disagreed with the way you handled things originally, but in the end it still seemed to work out all right.

I agree with you that it seems that she is trying to test you. If you are looking for a relationship I would actually try and answer the tests in a genuine yet still intriguing manner. "I invited you to two parties" "yes you did I like how you take initiative I like that in a girl" "I guess you will have to invite me to more to really get to know me then eh?" If it was me instead of ignoring the test I would actually answer it. Note, this takes a grounded frame. I know you have been around awhile though, so I think you probably at the level that you can answer it without worrying so much. I personally think you are overthinking the entire situation. Stop thinking so much lol. Most of what you are doing seems to be working.

The girl seems into you, but I know that if you are too distant, too cool, and worry too much about your "game" then you will fail just as much as any afc out there. Sounds to me like she is making it quite clear that you need to take your chance before she gives up and moves on. She seems to like you. Just continue to play your cards right and she will like you naked as well.