Does she exist?

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Short answer, no. Long answer, noooooooooo.

You may find a girl like this......at first. Stick it out and see if she doesn't do everything you mentioned.

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Absolutely you'll find it...but, whether or not you keep it is another thing entirely.

You see, she may be this person AT FIRST, but as she gets her claws in you and gets comfortable with your 'relationship' all of that will change.

I say that when you find it, use it up and enjoy it as much as possible and for as long as possible...then, toss it to the side and find another hooker to fulfill that role. Women are only cool when they feel like they haven't gotten you...

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1. I don't see anything wrong with this. But you have to ask yourself. Are you ok if she makes plans for you guys? Will you go along with it without bitching? If not give her some slack.

2. Hrmm....


3. It is just human nature to have jealously. Even if it's almost zero there still should be some. For example it is ok for you to be jealous on very rare occasions to very small extremes. Girls would prefer there to be some level of jealously so she knows you are in to her still. Even the most secure girls in the world who are insanely gorgeous will be jealous of some other hooker hitting on you. So you should probably let this one slide just a little.

4. This is something that must be stated from the onset of your relationship. She must know very early on this is the case otherwise you will take shit for this.

5. You want a super hot girl. She should have tons of practice with this one and be ok with it.

6. Umm...Goodluck

7. Plenty of cool ass chicks out there that are ok with this one.

8. Are you ok with all sorts of dudes texting your girl? What if they are saying raunchy shit to her or sexual stuff? Are you ok with that? What if it is some guy she used to fuck? Anyways in a very serious relationship at some point you really have to put the other hookers aside and they shouldn't be interupting your current relationship. Keep their numbers in a little black book or something and move on. IF they are just friends and you have never nailed them then yeah it shouldn't be a problem.

9. Probably one of the sexiest things I find in girls is when we first start dating she ponies up for the bill ever once in a while. 50/50 is awesome but not necessary. If the girl is poor I let it slide all the way to like 95/5. If the girl makes a decent living then yeah she should foot the bill on occasion. If she is at 0% I kick her to the curb I just can't stand a girl who just expects it.

10. LOL you take your girl out to hang with your friends and then don't introduce her to everyone. She is just outside looking in. Gotta side with her.

11. Of course

12. Couldn't agree more.

13. Most girls don't mind strip clubs these days. In fact a lot of them even get turned on by them. Most girls don't mind porn either. So I just don't see this one being a problem most of the time. Of course you might find a girl who is badass 1-12 but hates porn and strip clubs...now what?


One of the problems with this list is if you are adamant about it then you might find yourself never finding the girl. I am not saying cave on everything but learn to adjust it ever so slightly. I have dated many girls who are perfect for about half that list but then have their flaws. You either learn to see through those flaws or move on. I too have no intention of settling and therefore run the risk of ending up alone. Come to terms with being alone and you should be just fine.

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They exist. I have a list somewhat similar - minus the racing, although I have my own hobbies, and minus the strippers. Lack of jealousy and neediness are a big item on my list.

The question is, are you screening the girls you meet for these qualities? And when such girls are in your life, do you have firm boundaries you don't budge from?

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Most of those I'd agree with (and there's definitely girls out there with many of those qualities), but a few of them I have to comment on:

1) Making dinner plans w/o asking her first
Your girl doesn't have a life too?

2) Thinking more logically than emotionally
I don't disagree with this...but I thought I'd mention:
I think it comes out of most of them eventually; But try setting the tone early on that you don't deal with that illogical emotional bs and, if she's got any sort of intelligence to her, she'll feel weird each time you point out (not throw in her face...but explain...) that she's being illogical.

6) Don't want to lead/entertain 24/7
Dear god, if you find a girl like this....keep that shit.

8) Don't want to be harassed when a lady friend sends a txt
Haven't really had a problem with girls bitching about this...but its possible they kept it to themselves. I'd imagine, though, that it'd take a pretty insecure chick to verbalize their issue with this w/o a real reason to jump to a conclusion.

9) Want a girl who offers to pay for dinner occaisonally
This has worked for me several times: After you've taken her to dinner and paid a few times, try "Hey, you cool if we split this one?". Of course don't say it as a demand...say it as if you just expect a yes. I've never gotten a no (and if I ever do, I'll drop that ingrateful hooker right then and there).

Several times (not always) the response I've gotten was that they wouldn't mind just picking up the bill that time. In one particular instance it even broke the ice for the girl to offer to take me to dinner on occasion after that.

10) Doesn't get mad when you don't intro her to friends
...that's just pretty rude...she's just sittin there a satellite of the group the whole time?

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Thanks for the straight-forward no bs opinions. I'll take what you guys said and be a better tool because of it! ;-)