The advantage of natural good looks

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[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]I hope this post is not misconstrued as being about looks as pertains to pickup tactics. I do not wish to debate whether looks “matter” in some kind of definitive sense (by definition it can never be). Nor a 1v1 style competition. This kind of thinking defeats the concept. Looks are such a small aspect of the overall requirements and even with them you need much much more. There are loads of hot women about who want you if you put yourself about right and know how to handle yourself - looks or not. Somebody having a leg up too should mean nothing. Hopefully I can do a decent job of explaining myself and stay away from that black hole…[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]One of the most important qualities you must possess is extremely keen social awareness. To be anywhere good you have to see what others do not. I have put a lot of work into this area and believe me it pays dividends.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]And then there are natural good looks. I know of no better short circuit that 100% works to immediately “convey” you are “that kind of guy” (i.e. not a douche). I guess considering I am a man I can understand snap positive judgment on good looks. I get the evolutionary psychology behind the thinking. That all having been said, I know for a FACT most decent (subjective I know) women would always prefer a cool guy. I think mostly they are just hoping the good looking guy might not be directly from tool academy. Good sex obviously a requirement and maybe that is their thinking. Lord knows it is important to them.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]I know of (as in have seen a few times) a local and somewhat renown PUA by name of Captain Jack. I’m not attempting to judge his looks but he is 6’2+ and obviously has some natural looks. Same thing with Adam Lyons , not an ugly man. Their modus operandi reflects the undeniable fact of their natural advantage in social awareness games. Women bestow this upon good looking men and it is mostly not earned.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]Not in any way am I attempting to diminish the natural looks guy or say I have a problem with him. I have met a lot because they hang out in the places hot women go. I observe it to be a fact that the average height goes up 2-3 inches in the downtown clubs and lounges. They are usually pretty cool but rely on the looks a little more than they should. I usually engage them just to see who is about that night. I have made good friends sometimes and end of the day they are just people like everybody else, just like the 10 girls. HOWEVER it can not be denied to be an advantage with respect to starting off and learning this game.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]Ultimately it pans out the natural looking guys can just chill, hang out at the busy venue and the girls who want them will be cool with that and sometimes indicate interest. It naturally fits the correct pickup style and they leverage their advantage (sometimes they do, not always). Very similar to tactics I might endorse as far as the air given off, body language, etc..[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]It is definitely a bit of a cheat though. I am much more respectful of "gurus" not bestowed upon – and believe me I have met guys who fit that bill and did it all with personality. I guess there are many ways to cross the river. Each to his own.[/SIZE][/FONT]

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My zero-value comment for the day:

Pretty damn good post.

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Great post.

And, I totally agree with the idea that women would love to have both a hot guy and a cool guy. Just like we want to have a hot chick and a cool chick. Sometimes, compromises are made along the way. Generally, men will compromise on the coolness of the chick while women will compromise on the looks of a guy.

I've always thought that those naturally good looking PUAs would do worlds better if they would be a little more humble and a little bit cooler, i.e. not douchey. It seems that the naturally good looking guys know it and project to the world that they "know" they're good looking. These guys appear to have more success with women, but generally they fuck them and forget them. I suspect that women learn really quickly that the guy has nothing but a pretty face going for him.

In all honesty, I'd rather be moderately attractive (or just good looking enough to not hurt you). There are so many stereotypes associated with the naturally good looking guys that you don't have to deal with if you're not. Win them over with who you are and offer them a lot of value and you'll have something better than an SNL on your hands...you'll have a Smitten Kitten. And, when they're smitten, they're going to do things for you that they would never do for some random good looking guy.

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Cheers BR. It also bothers me sometimes to see blogs, bootcamps, etc. sold from what appears to be that foundation. I'm not saying the natural looks guy can't learn good PUA and be smart. I just never see that.

I think it bastardizes understanding of social dynamics to misrepresent looks as ability. Just my 2c.