Sleek's confession

[Guest]

Ok, I have something to confess to you guys...

I am still afraid to approach top notch girls. I am talking about girls that are like top of the line kind of girls.
VIP girls or girls who are just dead gorgeous. Every guy in the club/bar wants to get wit her. The highest quality.
Gentlemen, I am talking about ALPHA females. These are the girls who go beyond the scale of 1 to 10. She could be easily be 11 kind of girl.
These girls are the undisputed hottest girls among the hottest. Guys would not question their standings.
Girls who are close to perfection (I say "close" coz nobody is perfect! :P)

While it is true that I don't bother approaching girls who are below 7, I do approach lots girls who are between 7 to 9. I mean girls I approach, they are cute, and I am interested in them. However, I want to be able to get the hottest of them all. I rarely approach girls who are beyond 9. I approached hb9.5s only handful times.

My scale is heavily relied on physical attractiveness btw and it is very very harsh. :P
I say that my confidence lvl is higher than before, I think I need serious inner game and much more confidence to game these little gifts from heaven.

[Guest]

whats really the difference between a 10 and a 6? The curvature of her body, maybe bigger breasts. The physical differences are very minimal. Emotionally shes human, so shes just as messed up as the rest of us and the rest of us are just as cool as her. Its all in how we view the world. I don't care if she is a 10 if she doesn't cook me breakfast in the morning then shes not going to be knowing me too long. I think you are afraid of 10s because you haven't set real standards for yourself other than looks. If you are judging women just based on that one standard then you are really cutting yourself short of all the truly amazing women that are out there. Ask yourself what you want in a woman at this current moment emotionally and make women fit your standards, not you fitting theirs.

[Guest]

My question is WHERE are you finding these 11's?? lol

You're correct that it's an inner game issue. Although I will say that I've seen you out before and you certainly don't seem to have a problem starting conversations from what I've seen. But maybe you were drunk?

I spoke to Socrates in Austin and he told me that you used to have very bad anxiety. So whatever you did to get from point A to where you are now I think is a good thing and I would keep doing it.

But for now, don't pass up the 8's or whatever you're approaching. Get good experience with them, so that you can feel like "the man" and build up your confidence.

A lot of this PUA stuff is 'You vs. You.'

You're your own worst enemy.

I can say one thing that I notice from your language, which is not doing good things to your brain and I would consider re-evaluating the way you think about:

No girl who you've never met should get the esteem of being a "gift from heaven" in your head. ALPHA female. blah blah. Beauty is awesome, but it's not that spectacular. A lot of girls are beautiful. If a girl is gonna have Mr. Sleek call her a gift from heaven, she damn well better earn it, right?

[Guest]

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Ok, I have something to confess to you guys...

I am still afraid to approach top notch girls. I am talking about girls that are like top of the line kind of girls.
VIP girls or girls who are just dead gorgeous. Every guy in the club/bar wants to get wit her. The highest quality.
Gentlemen, I am talking about ALPHA females. These are the girls who go beyond the scale of 1 to 10. She could be easily be 11 kind of girl.
These girls are the undisputed hottest girls among the hottest. Guys would not question their standings.
Girls who are close to perfection (I say "close" coz nobody is perfect! :P)

While it is true that I don't bother approaching girls who are below 7, I do approach lots girls who are between 7 to 9. I mean girls I approach, they are cute, and I am interested in them. However, I want to be able to get the hottest of them all. I rarely approach girls who are beyond 9. I approached hb9.5s only handful times.

My scale is heavily relied on physical attractiveness btw and it is very very harsh. :P
I say that my confidence lvl is higher than before, I think I need serious inner game and much more confidence to game these little gifts from heaven.
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I don't know where these HB11's are all hiding but I'd sure like to find a honey hole full of them.

First realize, that the majority of women are not into looks as much as we are! Psychologists have proven that males have a higher tendency to be "visually stimulated" than females. So keep this in mind and quit making it a "hurdle" in your own mind. Women tend to be "emotionally stimulated" so work that angle! Attracting women is so much more about having them connect through humor and your personality than your looks which is why you shouldn't sweat it. You can take any girl that thinks your "just ok" in the looks department and if you can show your personality to her and get her to take the bait you'll build stronger attraction than with your looks.

I find it interesting how every month in Playboy magazine I see some Playmate being quoted as saying she's single and no guys ever approach her and has no clue why! These are the sexiest women on the planet saying this!!! For some f'd up reason a lot of guys are intimidated by beauty, just like they are tall women. Hit on a hottie just like you would a fattie!

Whether its super hotties, celebrities, vp's of major companies or whatever, I see a lot of people have approach anxiety with these types. The problem is due to the fact that people put these "perceived" higher ups on a pedestal creating an unnecessary hurdle to jump over. IF you will stop doing this and view them as an equal to you, that AA will fade away. I've met a lot of famous professionals in the auto racing world and have always walked away thinking........you know what, that dude was cool as shit, he's just a regular joe just like me. My dad always said they put their shoes on one foot at a time just like you do!

[Guest]

Zine's totally right man. You've got to have other criteria for women other than how they look. I can't tell you how many times I've been talking to a 9 and she started looking more and more like a 6 because her personality was so freaking ugly. The reserve works the same.

Love Grimm's insight. It truly is you vs. you. You have a hard time approaching these girls because you don't feel like you're worthy of a 10. If you did, you wouldn't see them as a 10...you'd simply see them.

I agree and disagree with Howie. It is true that women are not as visually driven as men. Looks matter in that the better you look the more willing a women will be to discover your personality. It makes creating a platform much, much easier. But, it's not required. The funny thing is that the more you connect with them emotionally, the better you'll begin to look in their eyes. So, my view is that looks matter to an extent...they aren't the whole story for women but I don't really think they're the whole story for men either.

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Grimm:
you're right. I should slowly build up to top, not just rushing to top. Haha yea Socrates told you the truth. Back then, I was just starting and didn't have much confidence.

Zine and Bull Run:
I don't judge women only by their looks. However, looks do matter whole lot to me. Well that's how it is at least... for me. I don't know how important the looks are to you guys. As I mentioned before, hotter girls seem to have worse personality than less attractive girls because they have so many guys hit on them. Less attractive girls are just glad that you approached them. But for hott girls, you're just another guy and need to screen you coz they don't have time to get to know all the guys who approached them. So they are bitchy to you and make you think they have bad personality, but in actuality she just wants to screen all the guys who are shallow and not taking time to get to know her real personality.

Howie and Grimm: I guess I just made a big deal bout them so I couldn't approach. You guys are right that it is just in my head. I am creating extra hurdle for myself to jump thru.

Bullrun: I agree with you that looks do matter to certain extent. You can't be the ugliest guy on the face of the earth and be pulling 9s and 10s...

[Guest]

I'm having/have had the same issue. I'm meeting girls, but not the kinda I really want to keep around.
Part of it is personal deservedness, part is logistics, and part is where I'm meeting them.

2 of those things I can work on immediately, the other will be fixed soon. I've become less active lately for a number of reasons lately, a top one being starting, and working on my site.

The second reason is kinda a disillusionment, or plateau of sorts.
I can fix that by sarging more, or getting help from the pros, to take me beyond where I'm at now.
Honestly, reading posts on a board, or someone's e-book isint that helpfull for me at this point.