Disqualification..

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Here's a sample of something I'm working on for another company

It's incomplete but covers an area I thought you guys may like.

The first topic I want to look at is Qualification. Qualification is probably the biggest term we use yet have no real understanding of it's meaning, and occasionally how it's used. To start with lets look at the origin of the actual term qualification, and it's uses with regards to pickup. Loosely Qualification was a term used to describe the action of making yourself come across as smooth and Alpha and questioning the girl you're attempting to seduce to see if she is as good as you appear to be. A danger of this is the chance of Over qualifying and losing the girl as she feels she isn't competent enough for a relationship with you.

This really does still leave a lot to the imagination. With pick up not truly being a certified science it's up to us to begin to solidify things and see where the terms and techniques we use cross over into the realms of accepted psychology. In sales the term qualification is used readily. It is used to describe the action of using a series of questions in order to ascertain whether a prospective client is serious about purchasing your product.

Essentially you would look to create a series of set questions, routines if you will that would enable you to assess quickly and efficiently whether you where wasting your time in trying to sell your product to someone who literally has no intention, or means to purchase your wares. This can almost directly be applied to pick up in a very broad sense.

Even if we felt that qualification had no specific ability to generate attraction, those who are advocates of the “approach as many girls as you can” technique will readily see the benefit here. Simply assessing right off the bat whether a girl has any chance of sleeping with you and if not moving on to the next one will save a lot of your time and energy for those that you can actually close.

It could even be argued that Direct game is form of qualification. You approach and state your intent in the best way possible. If the girl isn't interested in you on the first approach you can always move on to the next one and save your time and energy. Eventually you're going to meet one that says yes. Now there are obviously a number of things you can do to increase your chances in direct game, and with practice, and work on your aesthetic you can significantly increase your chances. What if we wanted something with a little more precision? Does qualification provide us with the tools to do so?

In order to understand the depths of qualification beyond simple time management we need to look into some other definitions of the term. We look back even further to the philosophical conundrum known as the qualification problem. Largely considered in Artificial Intelligence, the qualification problem is concerned with listing all of the preconditions required for an action to have its intended effect within the real world. In Lay terms (excuse the pun) it is referred to as how to deal with the things that prevent me from achieving my intended result. A seemingly impossible task to say the least. Yet one we find ourselves dealing with almost everyday with regards to the world of pickup.

Women are at the very best unpredictable. With all the possible interpretations, preconditions and individual random elements that take place during a pick up there is almost no way of knowing exactly what would happen next. What we need is a way to attempt to alter these events and streamline them into something we can control.

For this we can begin to understand and use the technique know as qualification. Lets look into the different types of qualification.

Now naturally everything we discuss is merely theory, unfortunately there is almost no way of proving any psychological effect you can only ever hope to show some form of positive correlation, and especially within this field there are a number of different interpretations. So this is by no means a complete and concise article of everything to do with Qualification but merely an attempt to iron out as much as possible.

The previous paragraph is an ideal example of the first type of qualification we are going to look at. Disqualification. Put simply disqualification is used as a pre-emptive technique to alter someone's perception of a future situation that you can predict. For example as a writer within the community I know a lot of terms are open to individual explanation. I know a number of self confessed gurus would like to claim ownership on a specific term or technique as they feel it sets them apart form the others. Those writers may be hurt at reading someone else writing about “their topic” they may feel the need to disagree with it or add to it in order to maintain the image that they are authorities on that subject. By writing that I have not covered everything, and that everything I write is open to discussion I allow for that situation, and make it difficult for them to accuse me of a) trying to claim the subject as my own and b) claiming I know everything. I have disqualified myself as an expert, therefore averting a potential negative situation.

From a more gamey point of view lets look at a potential real life situation. If you knew that a girl you where gaming believed you where hitting on her and she wasn't interested you would need to act fast to stay in set. We've all seen the situations where her eyes begin to glaze over and she nods quietly just before looking around for her friends as a route to escape. You could pre-empt this situation by disqualifying yourself and then allowing yourself more time in set to actually generate attraction. One of the original ones used was to tell a girl “If I wasn't gay you'd so be mine”. This disqualifies you as a potential date and instead gives her the comfort to allow you to stay in set. Though this isn't the only way to disqualify yourself. Sometimes admitting you “love the cock” isn't the best way to run a set as it may leave you with another issue to deal with later.

When you understand the concept of disqualification you can actually begin to formulate other ways to express disinterest, either by having another partner, having come out of a bad break up and the thought of spending time with another girl would be horrible so soon after, the list is endless. By understanding the concept of disqualification you instead allow yourself the ability to generate your own lines in a given situation to prevent potential problems arising before they do.

Next that brings us to the essence of qualification or essentially the art of qualifying others beyond simply time wasting. For that lets look at one of my heroes. Bill Gates. I slept with his daughter once. Ok it wasn't THE Bill Gates daughter but still it makes a good story.

Anyway if you where to ever meet good old Bill, how likely do you think it would be for him to spend his time telling you how much money he made this morning? Or just how amazing his business was going? Incredibly unlikely right? That's because he's so comfortable with who he is, he doesn't need to prove to you how great he is. He has no need to Qualify himself or for a better word prove himself to you. He knows he's great, heck he knows you know who he is. Instead he would be more likely to question you, to ask you how you're doing and more importantly what you're up to in your life. As soon as you begin answering him you're highly likely to find yourself qualifying yourself to him. This is a common situation found in most social settings. Those outside the situation looking in will see one person questioning the other, and the other answering typically trying to show how good they're doing, seeking approval form the other. Just like in an interview situation the value of each person speaks for itself. Naturally not all interactions are so one sided. You rarely meet someone of such high value, typically the rolls switch back and forth as a power struggle in the conversation moves between two different people.

Now of course what we're interested in is how to use this to attract a girl. Well lets take the following situation. Something I call the car paradox.

We all know girls like fast expensive cars. Yet we also know a guy who shows his nice car to a girl is unlikely to get anywhere beyond being her chauffeur for a journey or two if he's lucky. So just why does this paradox happen? Well it all comes down to qualification. Most guys with a nice car don't simply allow the girl to find it naturally or by accident. They instead try to drop in as many hints and suggestions as to their car right off the bat. This of course is completely see through and as clear as glass. The girl can see the guy trying to impress her with his car and therefore qualifying himself to her. The power struggle we spoke about earlier is already won, and so her interest in finding a higher value male diminishes at least with regards to this poor Porsche ridden chap.

If he had instead allowed her to naturally find out he had a car after she was already attracted to him it would serve as a tool to further fuel her desire for him.


More to come asap.

Remember guys this is only for you lot. It's a private post so no sharing This stuff is new that I'm working on for other companies and isn't supposed to be released elsewhere...

AFC Adam

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interesting...

I think I'm guilty of qualifying myself a little too much sometimes... trying to prove that I'm different, that I'm fun and that there are interesting things going on in my life. I seem to have a hard time DHVing... I don't feel like I have enough value myself to qualify someone else to me...like It would seem hypocritical...

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bill gate's daughter

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Hey Adam. You lost me man. This post drones on and on and doesn't really say anything.

That old Youtube video where you talk about adding a statement in before a qualifier is way better.
On that one, you were brilliant.

I think you might want to review your own material.

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hahaha thanks for the post dude.

It's actually a very complicate post on purpose its designed as a full break down of everything to do with qualification for a specific client.

But i thought id steal it and let it out.

But I prefere the simple stuff too!

AFC Adam