Mentality for picking up women

[Dallastransplant]

This might not work for everybody, and for those who agree it certainly will help. Just because it worked for me and still works for me.

My nervousness toward picking up women has greatly decreased after I attended strip clubs. The reason I enjoyed strip clubs (and still enjoy) is that it puts me into a women's shoes. At a strip club before I go in I feel kind of nervous that many women (strippers) will come up to me for one thing, to get money from me through a lap dance or VIP room. I feel pressured and uncomfortable when a stripper comes down to sit with me, talk to me for a long time rather than just let me relax, and she gives me "compliments" as a way to help her sell me a lap dance. The ones who I choose to get a lap dance from are the ones who seem sincere, and make me feel comfortable rather than those who just sit on my lap. When a stripper talks to a friend and not me I feel that I am not being threatened. I do feel comfortable approaching any stripper I want to ask for a lap dance. I never hesitate going up to a women to ask for a lap dance because I am convinced she can't say no, and if she says no it won't be said in a harsh way. I never visualize or hear a stripper responding to me negatively. I am convinced that she wants me to approach them, as that is almost always the case at any strip club for any guy. Most men who go to a strip club probably feel the exact same way as I do.

I know some of you might be thinking "where is this story going?". I compare my strip club mentality with a women's mentality at a bar/nightclub. A women is probably just as nervous at a bar/nightclub that a man who approaches her is going interrupt her for a long time and not let her relax. This is why a false time constraint has value. As I feel that a stripper only approaches me for my money, a woman feels a man is only approaching her for sex. Which is why she is probably rarely impressed by compliments. Mystery tells people to talk to the less pretty girl who you are not interested in. It gives a girl the feeling of not being threatened when a guy talks to her friend. Like how I am not threatened when an exotic dancer shows interests in persuading my friend into buying a lap dance and not me.

Here is where I put myself into the same mentality as I do at a strip club. Like at a strip club I refuse to spend a second internally visualizing or hearing a woman responding to me negatively. I am convinced that a women only wants me, and do not waste a second questioning myself. I know it is important for a stripper to make me feel comfortable first to get me to buy a lap dance; as it is to make a women comfortable first in order for them to give me their phone number. Compliments do not lead me into buying a lap dance. Just as complimenting a women is not as powerful as a neg. I am sure many men who get nervous around women and feel the same way as I do at a strip club could benefit through this comparison. It works for me.

[Tribulus1000]

That's a very good analogy for understanding women's mentality when its you who is approaching.
I have another analogy that I use. I use the analogy of the waitress.

Think of a waitress. If she's hard working and a good waitress, she will come over to people's tables.

So let's say there are two gentlemen at the table having a conversation. Does she wait for them to stop talking before asking them what they want to order for dinner? No.
Does she think about how she's going to approach them and where she might stand in order to get their attention? Nope.

She has something they want. Namely food. She can bring them things they want and make money for herself as well. Everybody wins.

Its the same with pickup.

You have something they need and want. What is that? Your touch, your love, your penis. Even you. You are unique.

So make sure you interrupt girls when you approach them because you have something they want.

[Dead Poet]

Ok, confession time. I've never been to a strip club. Really...

[Scoundrel]

I see your point. In a strip club the roles are sort of backward to pick up. The guys with the most money will have to highest value and get all the strippers trying to game them. I'm not sure how it helps your game, but if it does it does and that's a great thing.

A long time ago I started going to strip clubs because I didn't have to approach and I thought if I could hook up with strippers without paying them normal girls would be easy.

I learned that nailing strippers isn't really any harder, it's just differant and it doesn't help in other kinds of places, getting normal girls.