"Noob" in need of guidance

[COS]

This is my first post other than the required intro post. I hope you guys can help me.
So, I've met this girl twice at a bar, and I think that she might be running game on me.
She's very flirty and touchy-feely with me, and the last time I saw her she even kissed me twice "unprovoked" (for lack of a better term) when she left.
However, even though both times she's sat at a table with me, she gets up every once in a while to walk around and talk to other people. I just sit there until she comes back, and talk to other people that I know that are sitting nearby.
Both times we stayed at the bar until it closed, and both times I invited her to come home with me after we left, which - of course - she didn't do. I realize now that came off as way too eager, especially the first night that we met.
I haven't gotten her number yet, because I know that I'll run in to her again.
So, how do I need to play this next time? What do I need to do to get her to come home with me?

[RockStar]

LOL. I hate A.D.D. chicks. let me give you some pointers on how to deal with them.

first sarge other girls and lock-in she will think they are gaming you. your value rises. that's what she's doing. she'll become jealous of them and watch the fireworks. be completely nonreactive. I mean if she starts bitching at you just stand there and smile. Do nothing. then hug her and tell her you think she's awesome for standing up for herself.

as far as her coming home with you. if you're not making her feel like she has plausible deniablity, then you're making her feel like a slut. BAD!!! invite more then just her back to your house. something like hey me and my friends are going to go play guitar hero. come on. then she can come and "know" you're not trying to get in her pants.

hope it helps
-Rockstar

[COS]

That does help, Rockstar. Thanks alot!
As I said, I'm very new to all of this, and I'm having trouble keeping some of the terminology straight. What do you mean by "lock-in"?
Anybody else reading this got anything else to add?
Thanks again!

[RockStar]

Well It's hard to put in writing what a lock in or roll off looks like. Me and my wing are however toying with the idea of doing some free coaching. PM me and we can talk about a time and place.

-Rockstar

[COS]

I appreciate the offer, but - unfortunately - I don't live anywhere near Dallas. My brother does live in Dallas, though, and I heard that this forum was the best place to get the kind of advice and guidance that I'm looking for. I hope that it's ok that I'm posting here even though I don't live anywhere near Dallas.

[COS]

So, I still haven't run into that girl again yet. Anyone else got anymore advice for when I do?

[Spinz2112]

I think this is one of the first newbie mistakes, how do i get that one special girl. I dont think its iterated enough in all the programs and what now that to get that one special girl...you need to be good with women in general.

It took me a while to understand this as well...and i think i finally understand and realise what that means.

For this one girl tho, just go with what you know for now and dont try tactics and gimmicks...just keep the conversation light and funny. talk to other people while shes sitting with you, show that she needs to be in your reality and not vice versa. (since you are new...try doing exactly the opposite of whats in your mind..if that makes sense.) if your mind says sit down and wait for her when she gone for her walk...do the exact opposite..walk around and talk to other people. If shes sitting down with you and shes being flirty...mind might say..be flirty back...do the opposite...in a not so arrogant way joke around with her that she cant kiss you, that it will cost her etc.

the biggest thing is, if you want her, you must be able to just let her go. meaning, have no fear of loss. you may be in a point where you want her so bad, that when you are around her, you do pussy things, which is lowering your value.

[COS]

Spinz2112, thanks for the advice, it's really helpful. I think I get what you're saying.
I'm thinking I'll probably see her either this weekend or the next, so if anybody else has anything else to say, now would be the time to say it!
I'm always interested in different takes on things.

[Spinz2112]

hey cos...if you want to brush up on skills...i would check out the Anhilation Method - by Neil Strauss. Its a good starter place for you if you have no idea of whats going on. Here is a link to the workbook itself http://www.scribd.com/doc/6339313/Neil- ... lueprint-1 ...but you should be able to find and download the actual seminar videos from the web (do you know about torrents? limewire?)

The anhilation method is for women i general, but you should be able to apply some stuff to your interaction with this 'girl.'