Dilemma...

[Pr0wler]

So, I've been on quite a hiatus as far as pickup is concerned. While it's not exactly pertinent to the problem at hand, I found myself over the past 4-5 months in a state of no confidence, lack of faith in my once decent abilities as a pua, and in complete disarray. I finally pulled myself out of this rut by opening and connecting with a 26 year old beautiful/smart/like-minded woman a few nights ago. It completely re-awakened my confidence in my abilities and allowed me to break through the walls I've been putting in front of myself. Now here is where the problem at hand starts to present itself. I'm just about to turn 20, most of my friends are older, and i really have no interest in women my age. I'm mistaken for being way older all the time (most of the time around 23-26) due to my maturity and calm demeanor. How can I more effectively create a lasting connection with women that are older than me without letting my age get in the way? I can hold a conversation with just about anyone and create attraction, but i seem to have a huge problem hooking sets for the long run. I can show them a good time and run pretty decent game, but nothing has been able to stick... Am i barking up the wrong tree or what? Any ideas or pointers to get me in the right direction? (I'm not looking for a "wait til your 21" type response". I just rekindled a once broken flame and i want to build on my momentum now)

~Background~

A past FB relationship with a 24 year old really seemed to fuck it up for me. I can't seem to relate to women my age (18-20) anymore (ditsy, immature, etc). I feel as if being more mature than most has been a curse in disguise for me... :-/

[Finesse]

...

[Kit]

Another thing to keep in mind is that women are also much more insecure than us by nature. Women, in general, do not like to date men that they feel will leave them for something better unless than man makes them feel safe and secure.

Without meeting her I can't say for sure because some really hot chicks will not date men older than them for purely superficial reasons.

Most women are insecure about age. They never want to feel they look older than the man they are with. Well... hard to explain. They would love to have a younger looking man as long as that man made them feel young rather than old in comparison. Make sense?

I agree with Finesse, act mature and confident. In bed take charge. If you satisfy her in bed and make her feel sexy there all will be good.

I suggest being a little rough with her in bed. Biting, encourage her to scatch you by anytime she puts her nails on your back, bite her harder or do whatever you are doing with more intensity. Make sure to do her doggie style and grab her shoulder. Just before orgasm, put pressure on her to push her down with your hand. Make sure she knows you are in control. The next time you have sex she will try to get even with you by climbing on top of you to prove she can control things too. Run with it.

Good luck.

[El Fenix]

I love cougars.
My last one was 33. The one I'm working on now is 42(shock! gasp!) and a kickboxing instructor.

I think it depends on what your looking for. Some of the girls that are older are looking for fun RIGHT NOW, and being younger you can fill that role/fantasy very well.
In my situations, we both know what the deal is, that it isnt a long term deal.

Now, if your looking for a more long term thing, with a girl that is decently older than you, I got nothing. I could make stuff up, but thats not what you wanna hear.

[playercool]

The only problem I see is society. This girl has everyone to deal with(answer to) if she gets into a relationship with you.

This girl = any girl much older than you are.

Her parents, friends, coworkers, everyone else will question why the fuck are you dating a 19 year old? She is so much more beyond you in regards of career. She is already out establishing herself in the workplace and you are a sophmore in school(assuming you are in school). These are just some of the things I can think of that are limiting you with these girls.

Early on in the relationship you might want to establish the frame that you don't allow society, friends, or even family dictate what you do with your life. This might reverse her frame on the subject and make her feel the same way.