by DateDemon » Wed Apr 09, 2008 12:50 am
Someone asked me about AMOGs the other day and this is what I said
Now before I paste what I said I want to clarify there are two types of AMOGs generally. Those that just happen to be around trying to start shit and those that were originally with the set or are friends of the set that were not nearby when you started but came back.
If the guy is outside the set and the set does not know the guy and he starts trying to start shit you should be able to brush him off pretty easily.
PM about this if this is a big issue.
I am assuming you guys mean the other type though .
The harder AMOG is going to be the guy that is in the set already that realizes you are stealing his girls and tries to step in. Or the guy that was gone and comes back to his friends and realizes you are now there gaming them.
With these guys you first have a decision. IGNORE THEM or TALK WITH THEM Generally unless they look really involved in the set I will just ignore them. If they approach the set I will introduce myself to the guy and then ignore them.
If the girls and others in the set are ok with you ignoring them then that person isn't important to them. If they seem uncomfortable then you should friend the guy more. Usually a guy that gets pissed off at you will be a guy that was ignored that was actually a decent part of that group, or just some douche the group doesn't want around anyway. (in either case you need to read this and show them some more attention) I am a small guy so I try to avoid violence in almost every case and I am extremely good at disarming guys.
Ok so heres my approach
"Like if a guy is completely a meat head and stiff, you might be like hey man you seem cool do you have any rythm lets see you bust a move!! the girls in the group will now expect him to do some move and he will be like nah man screw that or some other lame excuse. You weren't being mean, but you see how that would lower his value because he looked like a chump to the request. That might not be the best example but thats how I deal with AMOGs I find a way to shut them down without most of the time them realizing what happened at all.
You could even do something like dude you seem cool I bet you get girls all the time! and then say something like you seem like such a player! or something like I would get a lot of girls but I have super high standards, I don't think these girls would make the cut. or something like that. There is really so much you can do to acknowledge him and get him to blow himself out. like that comment he might say like Yea I do pretty well. or he might be like yea i don't do too bad. You calling him a player though totally DLVs him in the eyes of the girls, most girls hate the word player. Also you saying you have high standards and going that route makes you the prize to the girls and also not only makes you harder to get but you are basically lowering the dudes defenses by saying i am not even interested in these girls really.
Different guys will have different ways of dealing with AMOGs I am not saying you should follow my approach but since I want to avoid the fight I do not just ignore the AMOG I kind of do a kill them with kindness approach but everything kind I am saying is actually killing them in the girls eyes. Like you know how if a girl is trying to set you up with a friend and you are like are they cute?!? and the girl goes she is soo nice!! I basically kill the AMOGs the same way. On one side I am saying something that sounds ok but on the other side I am saying this dudes a douche. "
I always introduce myself when a guy walks up to the group though, its a totally good way of saying hey I'm XXXX and I am in charge now. Then just ignore him lol. If the group doesn't seem like they want to ignore him then I include him with one of the kill with kindness things above. Those are really bad examples but I kind of improv it. You should be able to control the conversation anyway. The main thing is just to keep the guy from doing anything physical to stop you, calling the guy a player is good. "man you seem cool you are such a player aren't you?" The word player is so money girls for the most part hate it, and guys for the most part assume you are just trying to be nice.
"I was no longer in the game to meet women; I was in the game to lead men."- Neil "Style" Strauss The Game 214
"It's not the number of ladies you get, or even the quality. It's all about whether you are happy with the results." -DateDemon