facebook help...

[midman]

im working this girl who lives in a couple towns over and we dont really know each other but things are working out and then at the very end she puts out a card and i dont know how to play it. any ideas on what to say after this? thanks

midman
11:32am Feb 29th
hey, on my mini-feed for my homepage here, youre always on it for some reason... and its starting to get old... ha ha.

Courtney
11:35am Feb 29th
Haha okay.... Sorry?

midman
11:36am Feb 29th
Im honestly starting to think that youre not... and that youre trying to make my mini-feed. lol. i see ur gonna be going somewhere and dancing this weekend

Courtney
11:39am Feb 29th
Nope, im pretty sure i have no control over that... And yah i am.

midman
11:41am Feb 29th
We'll its a good thing I wasnt invited to this thing, or else Id have to show you and your friends a thing or 2 about dancing. Smile

Courtney
11:57am Feb 29th
Haha yahhh....

Courtney
11:59am Feb 29th
So what made you decide to message me about how annoying my mini-feed things are? Lol

midman
4:10pm Feb 29th
well i saw that u like aly and aj for your favorite music and i gotta admit that they are incredibly lame. ha ha. just seeing that i now know that u and i are never gonna be able to work out just bc of that. lol

Courtney
4:23pm Feb 29th
Ill admit a lot of their songs are super lame but some are pretty good, don't hate. And thats only one of the bands on a laarge list.

midman
Today at 11:32am
point taken. so i see youre kinda cute... are you friendly as well?

Courtney
Today at 11:35am
I would say im pretty friendly person...

midman
Today at 11:40am
ok, so if you could describe yourself in 3 words what would u say?

Courtney
Today at 11:45am
Honestly, thats a pretty tough question. I dunno! Definitely outgoing, trustworthy..and i dunno for a third. What about you?

midman
Today at 11:54am
alright. good stuff.

myself in just 3 words?... Perfect, Hot, and Amazing. ha ha


Courtney
Today at 11:57am
Wow, you really must lack self confidence.


midman
Today at 12:02pm
lol. do you really get that vibe from me? most people get the opposite... ha ha. hey listen, im gonna go, i got some errands to run today. U and i are going out for coffee when you get back. We'll see if you really are a "friendly outgoing trustworthy" person. Whats the best way to contact you?

Courtney
Today at 12:24pm
I dunno... I usually don go out with guys who found me on the internet... Lol


and this is where im stuck... ideas?

[Finesse]

I have said this in the past and it has worked. Feel free to try it.

"Tru Dat, I would actually like to meet you though, so lets just "be in the same place at the same time".

You rushed it kinda fast, and I wouldn't be surprised if she thought you were kind of arrogant at this point, which is a killer for online game unless you've already talked to them.

I'd also recommend actually giving her a geniune compliment not based on her looks. But for sure you need to ask her again, and do so in a less commanding way.

Try and make it her idea or give her the "power" per say.

Right now youre in damage control.... and you have been since this "point taken. so i see youre kinda cute... are you friendly as well? "

Thats good in the fact that it tells me that she is still considering actually meeting as long as you dont flub anything else up.

I'd recommend the sincere route, give her a genuine compliment and then seincerely ask her to meet up with you for some obscure band or something.

The problem is, the conversation was built on something that she really wasn't into, at least not up until this point right here:

Courtney
11:57am Feb 29th
Haha yahhh....

Courtney
11:59am Feb 29th
So what made you decide to message me about how annoying my mini-feed things are? Lol

But then right after this you went onto do qualifying which is fine, the right move but the qualifier you used was a hard qualify, not a soft or medium which I would have recommended. But also you did a hard qualify and then a medium right after.

A medium qualify is t "describe yourself in 3 words" that would have been fine initially to build a little comfort and such. Notice the reactions you got from each. Which one was the better reaction?

Build a "yes chain" next time and then hard qualify... wash, rinse, repeat

You will be hard pressed to actually get her to come out with you while youre in damage control though.

Good luck!

[zine]

I agree with finesse, and no further input is really necessary.

[Finesse]

I forgot. .... Apologize for your arrogance.

"I apologize for my arrogance, you just never know who some body is though until you cross that line, and now I know where that line is. You seem strong and determined, but there's also this friendly side to you. I admire your strength. Look, I think I wouldn't mind hanging out with you to get to know a little more about you, X-band is playing here, it'd be great if you could join me."

[Solace]

As a guy who is pulling about 5 new girls per week off facebook, and their friends... Let me tell you. never apologize for being cocky! this is what gets and maintains their interest... gives them something to work for( your kindness) Keep up with the cocky ... ie: i never meet up with guys who find me online
you: Well thats funny cause i just thought you had good taste in guys, so "x" spot in "x" hours? Wash rinse repeat. These girls are obligated with their asd and all. Keep it up, be the prize, and kudos on your method! Might be able to help you out with this further. PM me

[song_bird]

you kinda blew your self out when you invited her after she shot you down...

your AMAZING, HOT PERFECT thing is alittle over bearing not even cocky.. just annoying (as she reads it) it would be much more effective to list a cocky thing (in a fun way) and some out landish kinda stuff..

3 things to describe me? Ridiculously fun, I'm a social ninja, and thumb wrestling champion of the universe....

if you answer that way... she is compelled to respond in a playful way...

also... Key to inviting a girl from online.. make sure it doesnt seem that you are inviting her to do something you are only doing if she agrees... first invite... (majority of the time) is much more effective if you invite her to something you will be doing regardless of if she comes along or not...


kelly

[midman]

Enjoying the feedback from everyone. Thanks fellas.