I used to believe them but field work has shown them to be misconceptions.
1. You have to be higher energy than the set to open them. You should come in with slightly higher energy to open them.
False.
You can open sets being boring, monotone and even drunk. I used to come in with high energy and come off as a fool.
You can say the same lines but use a slower, more even tone. Ditto for being super loud.
This came from Style's post. With respect to him, its wrong.
2. You must do SOLID A2 routines.
False.
A2 is the use of DHVs, exciting or female drama topics, or anything that allows you to assess if she's interested.
The subtitle for A2 is "Female to Male Interest".
That's it. Read it again.
So if she's talking to you....she's interested. Not every girl gives you fireworks.
Its nice when they do but on a philosophical level, do you really need fireworks to talk to a girl?
Those quiet girls may be saving the fireworks for the bedroom!
The problem with A2 is that it tends to make you want to showcase yourself as a "dancing monkey". You're putting up effort and energy into some situation that may go nowhere.
Easy, funny banter lines work just as well.
I told a girl last night that her and her friend were "on the prowl". It was hilarious and she laughed at it.
The true emotional impact is not from the funny line. It is her seeking rapport with me.
OK so I had to practice Tyler's Women as Sexual Predators as much as 50 times in order to learn this.
Those stock lines and stories are like training wheels.
3. You must see high attraction spikes.
False.
Again, these are optional. Fireworks are cool but not every girl is a girly girl. Some are moody and others are funny and will mess with you back. That's where shit tests come in.
The thing about attraction spikes aka BT spikes is that that the more subconscious they are, the more reliable they are.
Eye contact (EC) from across the room is sometimes more effective than a girl laughing at your Bad Ass Kid routine.
If you can detect them, they are really useful. Or you just ASSUME she's attracted to you. Assume the sale.
If you want to be able to see attraction spikes more clearly, think of walking down the street in a big city. A guy comes walking down the sidewalk.
He asks you for money.
This probably happens alot. It happened so much to me that I began to develop an unconscious awareness of when the guy was going to ask me for money.
Its just the same way with attraction spikes. Do some meditation and tell yourself "its just like the beggar asking for money." Attune yourself to seeing when they're attracted.
4. You must get through A2 before you can do A3, qualification.
False.
Qualification is used to get compliance. It is used to get the girl to make an investment.
It is what Cialdini called "Commitment and Consistency".
A3 is subtitled "Male to Female Interest".
Its a place where you show some interest.
Again, as long as you are talking to her, you can qualify. The better you get at spotting IOI's, the less you need to focus on them.
Qualification in a nutshell, goes like this:
Big Open Question -> She answers
The more she answers, the deeper she invests. The deeper she invests, the more compliance you have.
Bait-Hook-Reel-Release
The Bait-Hook is qualification. The reel-release is the IOI-IOD pair. And the reason for the IOD is for scarcity to make her chase.
"Name something about you that no one else knows"
"I play World of Warcraft"
"No way! High five. I love W.O.W. Its so much fun finding new worlds. I like you, too bad you're a computer geek."
5. You need Attraction then Comfort in order to seduce.
Semi-correct.
You need attraction but the better word is compliance. You need her to willingly submit.
How do you do that?
If a person is uncertain about what to do, they look to others or authority figures.
If a person invests in something or something, they will comply with it/them.
Compliance is better than attraction.
With attraction, you have a smile, a wink or a fleeting touch. With compliance, you have her submitting to you, doing what you want, following your suggestions and even taking the lead.
I don't disagree with Mystery, I'm just putting my own take on what's really going on and why we do what we do.
Instead of focussing so much on attraction, the proper protocol would be to try to get compliance.
6. She turned her back on me or did something that "blew me out". I can't let this happen. I've got to do 10 more sets! Aaaaah!
Calm down.
(Extreme example for illustration purposes)
This takes some understanding but if she talked to you and turned her back, she did a takeaway.
She used a compliance tactic. That's all it is.
She didn't blow anyone out. There are no such things as "blow outs", except with old tires and you're not an old tire.
Don't take it so personally. Its a game. Its her trying to get you to chase. Your job is to flip it around.
As long as she didn't walk away, you're still in.
Why the hell do you have to do so many sets? Why not focus on learning what to do in each situation instead of burning through 10 more openers?
I do understand that you need to do sets in order to learn. But if you don't learn anything with each set or every other set, you're missing the point.
Don't take the game so seriously. Relax. Take the time to learn at your own pace.
Try opening different ways.
Try freestyle with no routines.
Try having fun and letting them do all the work.
Try karaoke!
Forget about doing this to become a big man on the message boards. Forget being a legend.
You don't need to make a commitment to the community. Why? So you can be compliant and buy more products?
Wake up.
I'm done. Comments?
