HELP PLEASE!

[Elation]

She wants you. It's that simple

She probably said she wasn't looking for a serious relationship because she girls never are. It's supposed to just happen. Plus, if she just got out of one she isn't thinking about trying that much emotional stress anytime soon. What she needs is someone she can just have fun with. If you feel yourself dropping into the friends zone it's probably your own emotional barriers getting in the way. Meaning you passes the first few chances you felt you could have taken the relationship romantic (IE k-close, et.c) So now you are trying to wait to make it perfect so there is no possibility that you will fuck it up. You are afraid if you don't do it just right then she will reject you and you feel you've put on too much of a "just friends" show to let her know you actually like her.

DONT LISTEN TO GIRLS MINDSETS. It doesn't matter if you have created that impression in her mind, you can change anything and girls are always going with the flow so whatever happens happens. The key is transitioning. Girls are and always be about emotions.

She was blowing up your phone because she started to realize how much she enjoyed you. The key is to break rapport in a sexual way. If she is too friendzy but you are comfortable with her, than you play distant by cutting the rapport on a sexual note. If she continues the interaction with you than she is accepting your sexual frame. If she cuts it off then you go find other girls but you only loose if you don't try. Rejection isn't real, it's just about her emotional response at that exact moment.

When y'all went to hang out I don't blame her for leaving. In fact it was the only decent, self respecting thing she could have done. Girls know whether you are playing games or not. This craft is about acting. This craft is about congruence. You weren't being congruent. She came to hang out with you and has felt that she has been chasing you quite a bit. But now she is probably loosing respect for you. You know why? Because when she threw herself at you all you did was communicate to her "your not really good enough for me, I was only flirting around with you because I enjoyed your attention but now that you are really into me, I have to cool the jets because I don't actually want you, your not really good enough for me"

She left because she felt like shit for being rejected. That or she saw that you were playing games and she didn't understand why but saw it as manipulative and cruel.

And now you are in the damage zone. You in bad because you called her and let her know that you were in fact playing games, and not just having a bad night. Do you see how? It's because you confessed that you were angry about her leaving without saying good bye. It shows that you really care but not socially calibrated to understand what was going on. I don't know, that is just my interpretation.

I think it's obvious she's into you... and hey, it may just be that she has issues and needed you to re validate her and make her feel that she was hot again after getting out of a relationship (if you were spending time with her she obviously picked up on the fact that you liked her. It would have been subcommunicated in your body language, tonality, and amount of attention you payed to her) And if that is the case, when her validation tool left her side, she felt she could chase you and get you back to your role as a pleaser. I mean if you hadn't had the balls to grab her by the back of her hair and pull her into a kiss yet, she may have figured that you were worth nothing more than a guy who would listen to her problems and make her feel good about herself. But even if that was the case, by cutting the relationship and being distant, you had the chance to show her that you actually liked her and that if she wanted to continue the relationship with you that it was going to be romantic from now on. But either way, it feels to me like she was developing feelings for you.

Hers how I see that: by getting mad that you weren't paying enough attention to her it represent one of two things. The first is that she was becoming addicted to your deep level of rapport with her. She was enjoying being made to feel good by you and share a deep connection with her. And now you were not being yourself, being bitter about something that she couldn't understand because you weren't clearly communicating with her and playing manipulative games. So she left

The second situation is that she was becoming very attracted to you and when she hung out with you her plans for that night were to make you fall for her. She was hoping to finally land you. And instead of giving her a shot, you pretended she didn't exist thus ruining her plans for that night, making her angry that she couldn't have you and causing her emotional circuit to burn out. Past a certain point of attraction, if a man doesn't show interest and escalate the girl will feel dirty or rejected and begin to resent him.

My advice is to stop worrying about this. If you're in the game then in the next year, you will probably talk to over 1000 other chicks, possibly k-close a good 25-50, date a good 15-20... why worry too emotionally about your first lesson you learned this year. That's all she will be. I'm not saying don't go for her and forget about her. Not at all, I think you should pursue her. A lot of the ideas on these boards are from guys who develop one-itis for a girl after she doens't respond to 2 of his calls. After her ignoring him twice, he is so rapped in in the "fact" that she is the most perfect one alive. WRONG WRONG WRONG! This is dating. She is dating other guys. She goes out with other guys and can't answer her phone. She was in the shower and then got too nervous to call you back when she got out. She was gonna call you but got busy with her other life. Hey you should be making the same mistakes. You met a girl and liked her but you lost her because you forgot to call her, and she was sitting by the phone but you were to busy to remember and you freaked out and deleted your number.

Wait a tad bit longer than you would normally call her and then call her like nothing happened. If it's too strong a memory, just mention that you weren't feeling yourself that night and if need be apologize for being an asshole (but only once and then cut the thread and stack into something completely different, making it feel as if that was simply a second though and not one worth remembering.) And then simply invite her to hang out like you normally do. This time take her out, have fun and then act as if you suddenly noticed how she is really an amazing girl - I mean you should obviously mix in the flirting and teasing throughout the night, increasing the kino, being dominant and her leader- but let her feel that you suddenly realized how much you like her, assume the sale, and lean into kiss her. Create the moment, make it spark and give this girl a whirlpool of amazing feelings. If she doesn't go for it, play it cool, say something like "it's ok, we'll wait till you are more comfortable" and then keep up the sexual vibe.

If she stops you with the conversaton about "we should just be friends" use the most beautiful line I have ever heard (I just heard this on a movie, LOVE IT!) Say something to the affect of how you have recently realized how she is so far superior to other women you meet and how sexy you are starting to see her and then drop it.... (you ready? drum roll please) "I promise you, I will never be friends with you. Ever." <<<<<MONEY!!!!!!!!

I just love it! "I promise you, I will never be just friends with you. Ever, for the rest of my life. Never" AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHGGGGG that's awesome!!!!

Anyways, don't think about this girl more than you think about your other girls... I mean you do have other options right?

-Elation