Yes, a virgin to the lair..
Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 11:06 pmHi,
Well I am from NJ and moved to Dallas a month ago. I have my own business and work in different areas for several months to a year at a time. This is the first PUA lair I have ever joined and I have been learning about the PUA community for almost 3 years.
I got started like a lot of people did because "there was this girl" lol.. so anyway, this girl I met and really liked, who was very interested in me (she would keep caling after I cut her off several times) never would let me actually date her, and the whole situation was so confusing to me that I decided to see if I could do some research and figure it out. I realized that I wanted to take control of my life in this area and be able to successfully persue what I want out of life rather than just accepting whatever came to me and forgetting about the rest.
After three years I can evaluate myself more competently. My issues never had to do with approach anxiety (of course I had it, it just never stopped me) and though I was a 'nice guy' I wasnt the kind of guy who got stuck in 'friend zones'. If anything it was hard to find women who would put me in friend zone. I actually got involved with a lot of women and got laid a lot (enough for me to foolishly think I could figure this stuff out myself) But I did need to learn a lot about women and technique.
I know I am looking for a LTR but I would rather wait for one that makes me very happy than commit to something just to have company. I also know that the best women will want the best man (in her perception) and as much as I have learned from the community so far, there is much more for me to learn about presenting myself properly and dealing with things correctly.
Anyway for the last 3 years I have been doing most of my work solo and supplementing it with the wisdom and experience of friends of mine who are 'naturals'. I have to thank the PUA community for helping teach me to better choose who I get advice from and how to ask for and filter the advice I receive.
Today I had an interesting experience on a flight home to Philadelphia which I found interesting and would like to hear some feedback from the community, so I decided to join my first lair, and I look forward to hearing from you guys (I will post it later - 'Alex just wants peace')
I just got to Dallas a month ago and am still learning the area. I am looking forward to meeting some of you and reading your posts and hearing your perspectives on my experiences. If anybody has some advice for a new person to the area on good places to go (clubs and hang out bars) that would be great. Also, I have some under-21 friends who want to visit so if anybody knows a 18 and over club that would be a big help.
This is not really relevant to an introduction, but since this is very rare, so I thought you guys might like to hear it. I actually *did* get a resolution with the original girl who got me started with PUA. She's married now but we're actually talking now and becoming friends. She told me that back when we were talking she was very attracted to me but was afraid I would break her heart. She also said that there were a couple of times she gave me a hint that she wanted to date me but "I was a jerk".. lol and even when we talk now she is constantly telling me how great her sex life is and how happy she is, so I know she is still very attracted. Which is great for giving me resolution but not something I will do anything about. (I wouldnt try to break up a marriage for a girl who is with a good guy unless I was ready to replace everything she would lose and certain I would want to take that responsibility)
Well I am from NJ and moved to Dallas a month ago. I have my own business and work in different areas for several months to a year at a time. This is the first PUA lair I have ever joined and I have been learning about the PUA community for almost 3 years.
I got started like a lot of people did because "there was this girl" lol.. so anyway, this girl I met and really liked, who was very interested in me (she would keep caling after I cut her off several times) never would let me actually date her, and the whole situation was so confusing to me that I decided to see if I could do some research and figure it out. I realized that I wanted to take control of my life in this area and be able to successfully persue what I want out of life rather than just accepting whatever came to me and forgetting about the rest.
After three years I can evaluate myself more competently. My issues never had to do with approach anxiety (of course I had it, it just never stopped me) and though I was a 'nice guy' I wasnt the kind of guy who got stuck in 'friend zones'. If anything it was hard to find women who would put me in friend zone. I actually got involved with a lot of women and got laid a lot (enough for me to foolishly think I could figure this stuff out myself) But I did need to learn a lot about women and technique.
I know I am looking for a LTR but I would rather wait for one that makes me very happy than commit to something just to have company. I also know that the best women will want the best man (in her perception) and as much as I have learned from the community so far, there is much more for me to learn about presenting myself properly and dealing with things correctly.
Anyway for the last 3 years I have been doing most of my work solo and supplementing it with the wisdom and experience of friends of mine who are 'naturals'. I have to thank the PUA community for helping teach me to better choose who I get advice from and how to ask for and filter the advice I receive.
Today I had an interesting experience on a flight home to Philadelphia which I found interesting and would like to hear some feedback from the community, so I decided to join my first lair, and I look forward to hearing from you guys (I will post it later - 'Alex just wants peace')
I just got to Dallas a month ago and am still learning the area. I am looking forward to meeting some of you and reading your posts and hearing your perspectives on my experiences. If anybody has some advice for a new person to the area on good places to go (clubs and hang out bars) that would be great. Also, I have some under-21 friends who want to visit so if anybody knows a 18 and over club that would be a big help.
This is not really relevant to an introduction, but since this is very rare, so I thought you guys might like to hear it. I actually *did* get a resolution with the original girl who got me started with PUA. She's married now but we're actually talking now and becoming friends. She told me that back when we were talking she was very attracted to me but was afraid I would break her heart. She also said that there were a couple of times she gave me a hint that she wanted to date me but "I was a jerk".. lol and even when we talk now she is constantly telling me how great her sex life is and how happy she is, so I know she is still very attracted. Which is great for giving me resolution but not something I will do anything about. (I wouldnt try to break up a marriage for a girl who is with a good guy unless I was ready to replace everything she would lose and certain I would want to take that responsibility)
) I'm a fun-loving guy who will pretty much try anything, doesnt really need to sleep, and like drinking but don't need to get drunk to have a good time.