Hi guys, My name is gearz I chose it because I love cycling and to me there is something simple and beautiful about the way the gears on a bike work. I am very new to the PUA scene and admit I am also very bad at it. It's not that I cant talk to people, I am naturally very outgoing and high energy I just tank when it involves a beautiful girl. I was oblivious to this subculture until a few weeks ago when my best friend introduced me to The Game by Neil Strauss. I have also picked up Mystery Method and am learning a lot through reading those.
I have read a couple of posts about the meetings you guys hold every once in a while. Is it acceptable for someone like me to come into one of those situations with, to be honest, relatively no game. I am very eager to meet some of you guys and to learn all that I can.
Tonight will be the first time I try a few routines, I am meeting several old friends at a club in dallas and figure it will be as good a time as ever to give it a go. If you have any advice I am all ears.
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by Guest » Thu Apr 09, 2009 10:45 pm
Almost everyone starts out reading The Game.
Mystery Method will get you used to the terms and teach you everything pretty much, just not in detail.
So you're good with those.
Especially good openers?
I remember starting out I asked the same question and everyone said "Anything will work. Just go up and say something" and that is true, but that's not the answer I wanted nor do I think it is the answer you want.
Any opener that gets the girl talking is an especially good opener to me.
Now my favorites are opinion openers: (At a clothing store in a mall)"Hey, I am shopping for my sister for this lake party she is going to and you look like you have a nice sense of fashion so could you help me decide which of these would be best to wear to an outdoor lake party?"(Hold up two random peices of clothing, it helps if they are obviously not good for a lake party)
She'll say "blah blah blah that one blah blah blah" or something along the lines of that.
Then you can say "Actually could you help me find something that would be good to wear to a lake party?"
Then you're off.
Mystery Method will get you used to the terms and teach you everything pretty much, just not in detail.
So you're good with those.
Especially good openers?
I remember starting out I asked the same question and everyone said "Anything will work. Just go up and say something" and that is true, but that's not the answer I wanted nor do I think it is the answer you want.
Any opener that gets the girl talking is an especially good opener to me.
Now my favorites are opinion openers: (At a clothing store in a mall)"Hey, I am shopping for my sister for this lake party she is going to and you look like you have a nice sense of fashion so could you help me decide which of these would be best to wear to an outdoor lake party?"(Hold up two random peices of clothing, it helps if they are obviously not good for a lake party)
She'll say "blah blah blah that one blah blah blah" or something along the lines of that.
Then you can say "Actually could you help me find something that would be good to wear to a lake party?"
Then you're off.
- Guest
by Guest » Fri Apr 10, 2009 12:01 am
hey, welcome to the forums and believe me, pua's of all skill level come to the meet-ups...we encourage it!!
having said that, ive transitioned from canned openers to random openers, i feel that they are more effective and what works best for me.
in order to be truly successful at PU, i suggest you work on your inner game and get that squared away. that is MUCH easier said than done. ive been doing this actively since nov 08 and still struggle with inner game issues...until then, fake it til you make it!! :)
in the meanwhile, check out [url]http://bristollair.com/[/url]
its got tons of useful stuff including canned openers..
having said that, ive transitioned from canned openers to random openers, i feel that they are more effective and what works best for me.
in order to be truly successful at PU, i suggest you work on your inner game and get that squared away. that is MUCH easier said than done. ive been doing this actively since nov 08 and still struggle with inner game issues...until then, fake it til you make it!! :)
in the meanwhile, check out [url]http://bristollair.com/[/url]
its got tons of useful stuff including canned openers..
- Guest
by Guest » Fri Apr 10, 2009 12:20 am
Good openers eh...
Well lets see, the first night I went out I used 2 or 3 canned openers I'd read somewhere. I didn't get any numbers or anything, but I did have some fairly interesting conversations. Most of all, though, I realized that going up and talking to strangers really ain't that bad.
So here's what you should do:
The first time you make it out...before you come out...sit down, get creative, and think of 2 or 3 that YOU think might work well.
They just have to be good conversation starters. Doesn't matter exactly what they are (you'll learn quickly that what you open with really doesn't matter...its where you go after that).
Don't worry about practicing them or writing them down or anything...just have a good 2 or 3 in mind so that you don't go blank on your approaches.
A word of advice to help in-field is to try and come up with something that is related to a topic YOU enjoy or know alot about.
Then, set a goal for yourself that night to open, say, 5 sets. Doesn't matter where they go...the point is to get used to opening.
If you're anything like me...this will teach you that talkin to strangers (including pretty girlies) really isn't nearly as bad as you might expect.
Don't worry about impressing anyone....just do what you have to do to get talking to people you don't already know, and don't be afraid to ask questions.
With that, welcome and good luck.
Well lets see, the first night I went out I used 2 or 3 canned openers I'd read somewhere. I didn't get any numbers or anything, but I did have some fairly interesting conversations. Most of all, though, I realized that going up and talking to strangers really ain't that bad.
So here's what you should do:
The first time you make it out...before you come out...sit down, get creative, and think of 2 or 3 that YOU think might work well.
They just have to be good conversation starters. Doesn't matter exactly what they are (you'll learn quickly that what you open with really doesn't matter...its where you go after that).
Don't worry about practicing them or writing them down or anything...just have a good 2 or 3 in mind so that you don't go blank on your approaches.
A word of advice to help in-field is to try and come up with something that is related to a topic YOU enjoy or know alot about.
Then, set a goal for yourself that night to open, say, 5 sets. Doesn't matter where they go...the point is to get used to opening.
If you're anything like me...this will teach you that talkin to strangers (including pretty girlies) really isn't nearly as bad as you might expect.
Don't worry about impressing anyone....just do what you have to do to get talking to people you don't already know, and don't be afraid to ask questions.
With that, welcome and good luck.
- Guest
by Guest » Fri Apr 10, 2009 3:49 am
Thanks for all the positive input guys, really appreciate it. I am definately planning to attend the next meeting, April 17th is what it sounds like. Should be fun.
Just an update as to where I am at right now. I went out tonight to Cowboys Red River to meet some Very old and good friends, both girls and both very hot. I went out with the intent of saying hi and then working the club, trying out new tactics and such. What actually happened was completely different. I got there with my buddy who was playing wing and just out for a good time, But we only approached maybe 3 sets, only 1 was by me.
I set out tonight with a very high confidence level, but when I got inside the club it was shattered. I have danced maybe twice before in my entire life and really feel inept when i do it. Seeing all these people twirling, spinning, and a few even flipping just hit the panic button in my head. I did get a quick dance lesson or two from my friends but it just didn't seem to be enough.
What I learned from this is that there is a very similar property to both PU and bodybuilding, weak point training. I realized that my weak point in that scene and the destroyer of my confidence was my inability to dance so I have made it my new goal to take several dance lessons over the next couple of weeks. May 1st I will be going back there with the same group who and I damned well expect to see better results from myself.
Just an update as to where I am at right now. I went out tonight to Cowboys Red River to meet some Very old and good friends, both girls and both very hot. I went out with the intent of saying hi and then working the club, trying out new tactics and such. What actually happened was completely different. I got there with my buddy who was playing wing and just out for a good time, But we only approached maybe 3 sets, only 1 was by me.
I set out tonight with a very high confidence level, but when I got inside the club it was shattered. I have danced maybe twice before in my entire life and really feel inept when i do it. Seeing all these people twirling, spinning, and a few even flipping just hit the panic button in my head. I did get a quick dance lesson or two from my friends but it just didn't seem to be enough.
What I learned from this is that there is a very similar property to both PU and bodybuilding, weak point training. I realized that my weak point in that scene and the destroyer of my confidence was my inability to dance so I have made it my new goal to take several dance lessons over the next couple of weeks. May 1st I will be going back there with the same group who and I damned well expect to see better results from myself.
- Guest
by Guest » Fri Apr 10, 2009 8:03 am
I can't do any of that fast as all hell spinny shit they do at country clubs. The one thing I've used in every set in a country bar is getting the girl I'm in to to give me a quick dance lesson. Getting your hot friends to do it was the right idea, but now you gotta get another to test your skills...or maybe your friends aren't the best teachers. Whatev works. Pickup is about working on your weaknesses but also playing to your strengths. You might not be able to spin her around and flip her above your freakin' head...but you can persuade the pants off of her and get the helping hand!
- Guest
by Guest » Fri Apr 10, 2009 9:43 am
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Pickup is about working on your weaknesses but also playing to your strengths.
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That was my general though, It was great for me though to get out and be forced into confronting that weakness so soon. Sure I could propbably pick a venue that I am better equipeed to handle but I like the fact that my first time out was such a challenge. It made me thirsty for knowledge and experience.
Pickup is about working on your weaknesses but also playing to your strengths.
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That was my general though, It was great for me though to get out and be forced into confronting that weakness so soon. Sure I could propbably pick a venue that I am better equipeed to handle but I like the fact that my first time out was such a challenge. It made me thirsty for knowledge and experience.
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